PIL took dd visiting

[fifibella]

PIL had dd for a few hours at the weekend while me and dh had some important errands to do. MIL asked if she could take dd to FIL's parents which we said was ok.

when we went back to pick dd up, MIL said they had also taken dd to dh's brother, i wouldn't normally find this a problem but they have a staff bull terrier about 6 or 7 months old. it is a large dog and very boisterous, i am 4 months pregnant and last time we visited it caught me by surprise and nearly knocked me over.

MIL said that they put him outside when they visited (maybe this is true) but it was raining so who knows. i am always on edge (dh knows this) when it is around dd and always trying to keep them apart. it does seem a friendly dog though but you never know do you.

i didn't say anything to anyone but when they babysit again i know i am going to get myself into a state if they go visiting again or if dh's brother visits (because he always takes the dog). they are probably going to have dd again for a few hours at the weekend. don't know whether to say something or just leave it.

If you don't trust them enough to believe them when they say the dog was outside then you shouldn't be leaving your child with them.

Difficult - on one hand they said the dog was outside and if thats true, what more can you ask for? But the fact that you are doubting it probably means you suspect they would just say this to placate you. And if thaat were the case then I'd be furious that anyone had my child round an animal I didn't trust.
But do you REALLY think they could be lying, maybe thats just your worry coming through.

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Say something if you are woried about it for next time. No harm in putting down some guidelines if you trust them to be followed.

But you cant really be annoyed at them for taking her there this time as you hadnt said you didnt want them to, plus you've taken her there yourslef before..

i do trust PIL with dd but it was the way she said it "we took dd to house but he put him outside" as though she probably knew i would be worried but if she thought that then maybe she shouldn't have taken her.

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Exactly chequers.

i agree with soupy
surely its better they told you too-if they were that bad they wouldnt have told you.

fifibella, do you not think she told you the dog was put outside to reassure you that it didn't have access to your DD?? She was being responsible and honest!!

Wouldn't stand for this for a second!
My brother was bitten by a dog on the face at my grandparents' when he was 2. They shut the dog out all day. Just as we were going, they let the dog back in and it bounded over, my brother leant down to stroke it and it, pissed off at having been shut out all afternoon, went for him.
I wouldn't be happy at all - would just ask they don't in future though, and not make a big deal this time.