I'm out of this relationship a little while, but my self-esteem was low at the end so I'm not sure if this is normal banter in a relationship? He ended it coldly, said some hurtful things.
During the relationship, I often felt inferior to him, eg he'd quiz me on things he knew more about - poetry, music, for example, "who sang this song, who's this poet? Surely you know this one?" This was sometimes in front of others, once almost made me cry, but I'm not sure if I was being a bit sensitive. He never complimented my cooking, but praised his own no end; said my bed and bathroom was too small (we didn't live together) . These are just a few examples, but he had a good side too.
He fell out with a work colleague once and the colleague called my ex arrogant - this makes me think maybe I'm not being unreasonable, but looking back on the relationship, I now wonder why I stayed in it and why I didn't end it, not him.
AIBU - I'm too sensitive?
AINBU - Anyone would find this a bit belittling?