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Should I be worried

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Barbraboo · 16/06/2024 13:22

My partner and I have been together for a few months his ex has found out and is now emailing him saying she needs to meet up with him for closure for her mental heath he feels like he should because she owes him money but I don't see him ever getting it back she was awful to him she used to hit him and use him as her verbal punch bag I dont like the thought of them meeting up in public or otherwise he tells me he loves me so much and is so happy but he wants to get her out of his life and the constant emails from her is an issue should he meet her?

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OldTinHat · 16/06/2024 13:26

Three sides to every story. His, hers, the truth.

Personally, I'd be jogging for the hills if I were you.

BobbyBiscuits · 16/06/2024 13:31

No good will come of it. If I were you I'd say it's up to him but I strongly disapprove. If he has to go, then you request he has absolutely no contact with after the one meeting.
If he can't manage that the I'd be questioning the relationship.

Yesmate · 16/06/2024 13:32

He can block the emails if they are an issue. It speaks volumes that he hasn’t done that already.

Doratheantiexplorer · 16/06/2024 13:35

I say be wary of any man with a ‘crazy ex’. Two sides to every story. If he didn’t want to engage with her he could just stop.

KrisAkabusi · 16/06/2024 13:39

I dont like the thought of them meeting up in public or otherwise

Why not? Don't you trust him?

Topofthemountain · 16/06/2024 13:39

You should be very worried for yourself. Do you have any evidence that he was the one being abused? You've been taken a few months and he is already declaring undying love for you, so love bombing.

Please think about this relationship and any steps you take from here do so carefully.

Barbraboo · 16/06/2024 17:42

Topofthemountain · 16/06/2024 13:39

You should be very worried for yourself. Do you have any evidence that he was the one being abused? You've been taken a few months and he is already declaring undying love for you, so love bombing.

Please think about this relationship and any steps you take from here do so carefully.

I have known him for over 2 years we were friends previously and witness the black eyes she has given him and I never got on with her becuase of the way she treats people

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Barbraboo · 16/06/2024 17:44

Yesmate · 16/06/2024 13:32

He can block the emails if they are an issue. It speaks volumes that he hasn’t done that already.

He hasn't blocked her becuase she owes him money and he's hoping to be able to get it back she is blocked on everything else he kept the email open so she could contact him about repaying him everything else is blocked becuase of the amount of abuse she gives him

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Funkyfizz · 16/06/2024 17:46

He needs to write off the money she owes him and just block her.

MushroomStamp · 16/06/2024 17:48

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I've known him for over 2 years

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unsync · 16/06/2024 19:53

I am going to take the abuse at face value and assume it is as he has said.

He is under no obligation to meet with her and if she is truly after closure, she needs to sever all ties and that includes the financial tie of owing him money.

He should only agree to meet, if that is what he wants to do, once the monies owed have been returned. Otherwise, he is continuing to be manipulated by her. I would suggest using a mediation service to facilitate the meeting and that will expose any ulterior motive, and also keep both parties safe. My concern otherwise, would be that he may be exposing himself to DARVO.

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