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Rude People!!! Grrr

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chrissnow · 08/04/2008 11:40

Decided to go into town with dds today and have a little mooch. dd1 (2.5) was an absolute angel walking along side me really nicely, chattering away with lots of smiles from passing women. dd2 in buggy smiling at everyone and generally being cute.
Had a lovely stroll around in some lovely sunshine. Booked in for a half price haircut that I 'won' at my hairdressers , bought some lovely material and generally having a lovely day . . . .
until I have to go into Tesco. Two young girls yelling loudly about single parents basically being scum and 'getting too much' (I'm not a single parent, but get annoyed at other people's small mindedness. They don't know the circumstances or lifestyle of every single mom) I just ignored and tried to push it to the back of my head. Then dd1's boot came undone, so I have to stop and do it up. Bearing in mind I'm carrying a basket in 1 hand, trying to push a buggy with the other and keep an eye on a toddler I was starting to struggle slightly anyway. I wasn't blocking up the aisle that badly, plently of people managed to get past. I apologised to them all, and they all smiled and said "oh that's ok, you have to sort the little one's out" etc. then this horrid man comes charging down the aisle with a trolley stops dead and just glares at dd1. She was like a rabbit in headlights the poor thing. So I move her out of his way and he just glares at me. (he could have got past the other way) So I just said to dd1 in a nice voice "Now xxDD1XX when someone says excuse me, you move out of their way" So Was I Unreasonable?
Oh and he came back down the aisle about 5 minutes later in the opposite direction when I was back on the move again. I didn't make any effort to move that time.

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Nbg · 08/04/2008 11:49

Theres always someone isnt there.

I went to town last week and a similar thing happened to me.
I just forgot about it though because the kids were really good, people were very chatty and friendly plus I got some bargains

duomonstermum · 08/04/2008 11:55

hate people like that it's not as if you're deliberately blocking the aisle so there's no reason to be rude. if he was in a rush he could always have gone up another aisle.....that's what i do if i'm in a rush and the 2 biddies in front insist on catching up on the past 10 yrs in the middle of the aisle, blocking traffic from both ways. the one that gets me is people who walk out right in front of buggy/ wheelchair and then have the nerve to complain that i ran into them. GRRRRRRR

happens on a regular basis when i'm out with BIL2. he has an electric wheelchair but if DH and i take him out he goes in his usual chair. people think that it's ok to stand right in front of him and expect not to get caught on the ankles.... he used to try and move but he's now so pissed off about it that he just goes on. if they complain he tells them they shouldn't have walked out in front of him,it's not like they could have missed the chair or anything....lol

lucyellensmum · 08/04/2008 12:00

chris, you need to learn by your fundamental mistake here - you didnt havea trolley. The reason for the trolley??

RAmming into the legs of ingorant twunts like that

Go and dig something, it does wonders for stress

lucyellensmum · 08/04/2008 12:01

ignorant even

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chrissnow · 08/04/2008 12:08

I did toy with the idea of letting dd1 loose with the basket and t^^theads legs, but thought better of it!!
I'm still in a fairly good mood though. (even though after that incident, both dds turned tantrumy all of a sudden) but they're good as gold again now (in fact asleep!!). Am now going to have a little nap myself. Then we're all going to dig/paint etc in the garden!!

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nametaken · 08/04/2008 14:49

Sorry that man was so mean to you. Don't let it spoil your day.

Women with small children are very easy targets for bad tempered men. He wouldn't have said anything if you'd have been a 6ft rugby player.

Greyriverside · 08/04/2008 15:08

I make allowances and room for people shopping with kids (I know how hard that is)

However I have met these "2 biddies catching up on the past 10 yrs in the middle of the aisle" myself (they do get around!) and I have been known to glare at them

My glare has been known to melt butter on nearby aisles, but sadly has little effect on elderly ladies. I may have to buy a tazer

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chrissnow · 08/04/2008 15:11

Small women with small children must make for really easy tagets then!! Had I been alone he would have gotten a proper what for, but I don't want the girls to see that!!
And its not as if I was blocking the aisle - half of it maybe. He hasn't ruined my day at all. Me and dds haev just finished some finger painting and they are still as happy as larry!!

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needahand · 08/04/2008 15:17

on a slighlty different but slighlty similar note. One of the things that really gets to me is when you hold the door for someone and they can't be bothered to a) say thank you b) catch the door. They just expect you to hold it for them. When that happens I usually sling it strongly forwards which means it comes back at speed. Either they decide to finally catch the door or they get it in the face . Unfortunately that doesn't work for blocking the aisles in a supermarket

etchasketch · 08/04/2008 15:17

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chrissnow · 08/04/2008 15:21

Oh no I didn't get it cut . . . just booked it. There is no way on this earth I'd take them with me!! After all a trip to the hairdressers is the excuse for nipping into town alone for an afternoon isn't it? "Yes darling it does take 3 hours to cut hair, there's the washing, deep condition, pre-cut consultation . . ."
There is a thread somewhere asking for help to find me a new hairstyle . . . .

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Chequers · 08/04/2008 15:55

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chrissnow · 08/04/2008 15:58

Yes and they are the same 2 who bring 800 of their friends to the post office to each buy one stamp, when you are trying to send a parcel/get car tax urgently and your kids are getting really bored of queuing. . .

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chrissnow · 08/04/2008 15:59

although I have to say the ladies in our town are lovely and coo over the girls constantly. It's just the men

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Bouncingturtle · 08/04/2008 16:15

Greyriverside - have pmsl at thought of mners armed with tasers zapping people who annoy us..

  • Chrisnow's rude man
  • old biddies
  • people who seem unable to say please or thank you.

Chrissnow - at least your dds will pick up on your good manners

jumpingbeans · 08/04/2008 16:21

Differnt angle, Tesco's friday evening around 7.30 8.00 been at work all week totaly knackered just want to do shopping and get home and open a bottle of wine - in comes the twat family, mum, dad 3 lo's i am sure they think it's a bloody outing,kids running all over the place,and if you can believe it the youngest one 18months at most pushing the trolly,I just stood and shook my head, surley one of them could have stayed home with the children while the other did the shopping

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chrissnow · 08/04/2008 16:24

Can see your point. But mine were being golden. I could almost understand a little glare if they were being gits naughty, but they really weren't.

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Chequers · 08/04/2008 16:25

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chrissnow · 08/04/2008 16:25

And I'll bet you've got the manners to walk around or say excuse me - not like my Mr Rude Man.

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jumpingbeans · 08/04/2008 16:35

Oh i was not compareing your situation, in fact me and dh quite often have a good laugh at the things the lo's get upto round tesco's some are really funny,in fact a little girl about 18 months passed me carrier bag,i said thank you - she said "your welcome" ah bless

duomonstermum · 08/04/2008 16:41

needahand, i know what you mean about the door. i always say thank you and have even bee known to hold it open for other people while struggling with a buggy!!! would it kill them to say thanks!!! or even better take the door from the stuggling woman with buggy!!! i really hate it when DS holds the door open and loads of people go through. he's not being paid to hold the door you know.... he's too polite to let go so i drag him away. sod 'em if they get hit in the face (only people with prams etc are exempt from my wrath!)

re, biddies in the shallow end, i'm the b who makes an effort to splash you when i turn. it's a lane/adult session for a reason. some of us actually want to swim as opposed to catch up on the gos. that's what the pub across the road is for.

nametaken · 08/04/2008 17:10

if you need to buy your kids new clothes you have to take them to the supermarket with you.

itsahardknocklife · 08/04/2008 17:19

Don't let that man spoil your day - it's his problem and I hope you really annoyed him!

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chrissnow · 08/04/2008 17:21

Nobody was going to spoil my lovely day!!!

nobody

I'll look out for him next time though!!!

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