Away in a stag... no contact

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Firstly it's my first post so apologies for ' test' . I've had trouble posting already!

So am chatting it a man on line for the last week. He's away abroad in a stag and sent a message the first evening . Haven't heard from him since, left me on read and has been online since.

This is ok is t it or is it bad manners I. Your opinion?
Thanks

You’ve only been chatting to him for a week, he’s away having a fun trip with his friends. Totally fine for him not to be in touch, I think you’re expecting relationship level commitment/contact from someone who really you don’t know at all

I do agree.. at least my
Logical part of my brain does!
I guess when I saw he was online and left me on read, I thought ...🥺
Thanks for reply !

You have been speaking to him for a week. You barely know him. I rather suspect you are not uppermost in his mind right now. I wouldn't expect any contact at all in these circumstances.

For a man you've been chatting to for a week with not even a solid friendship at the moment let alone relationship, I wouldn't expect any contact from him for now.

With the caveat that I don't know what 'left me on read' means, I doubt you've even crossed his mind if he's gone on a mates holiday. He'll probably tell you about it when he gets back?

If it was my husband doing that I would be a bit annoyed because if he’s been on his phone I’d expect him to drop me a quick text as his wife, but honestly you’ve only been texting him a week. He could have been “online” briefly to check in with his family, his friends etc, I wouldn’t be prioritising texting a woman I’ve been chatting to online for 1 week if I was him either.

If I’d only be chatting to someone for a week I wouldn’t expect them to send me any messages at all while they are out of the country - you don’t really know one another after all. Lots of reasons why he could be online, have read your message but not had opportunity to respond. I honestly wouldn’t expect to hear from him until he is back home again.

It means that he has read her message but not replied.

There'll be lots of other people he's only known a week he's not text either tbf

After a week I really wouldn't give it another thought

Oh, I see! My phone doesn't show whether somebody's read my text or not

It’s a Whats App feature … very handy ☺️

If it was your husband? Not fine. Random man that you’ve only been speaking to a week? Totally acceptable!

You’ve not even met him?

No I haven't met him. I guess we were texting sporadically each day since we matched and we planned to meet when he gets home... logically, I know you are all right..

So a stranger you have spoken to over the last 7 days is not in contact while away. I'd be more concerned about a woman who thought he should be, you are very overinvested in someone you don't know.

So plan something fun for the remainder of your weekend, go out and enjoy yourself, then you’ll have lots to chat to him about when he gets back in touch to tell you all about his time away.

Bloody hell, me and DP of 17 years don't contact each other if we're on a weekend away, we know the other person is busy.

And you're expecting a man who you've not even met yet to keep in touch when you know he's away? You need to lower those expectations a bit I think!

You've never even met 🙈

Do you not have WhatsApp?

In the gentlest way possible, you've only been talking online for a week and haven't even met.
Even if he's shagging half of the women where he is, you're not even in a relationship.

It's a bit early to be getting your hooks into him.

No, I don't use anything owned by Facebook and I get unlimited free texts, so no need for it. I don't really care about knowing whether somebody's read my text, especially if it means they can monitor my texting activity too 🤔.

I wouldn't expect even somebody I knew to be texting me if they were away on a stag do or mates holiday regardless, so I definitely wouldn't expect it of somebody who I had never met but exchanged a handful of messages with online. If they expected me to do similar I'd count it as a bit of a red flag, tbh.

Good grief. From the title of this, I thought it was going to be about your husband of twenty years. There’s a yogurt in my fridge which is older than your interaction with this bloke.

Seriously? You sound like a nightmare.