Ok, I know how that sounds so I'll try to give as much background as possible.
My OH and I were together for over 10 years. We have a DD together, split two years ago for various reasons. He moved in with a family member (rent free). Over time and a lot pleading on his part we have been trying to work things out and see how things go while still living separately. The time is coming when he will move back into the family home but his finances are playing on my mind. He's always been very fair and paid over what he needs to pay for child maintenance plus will buy anything our DD needs if I'm struggling. He's not tight and will help out with food if he stays over and will lend me money if I need it. Apart from his general personal outgoings (mobile phone, gym, that type of thing). He gets over 2K a month. He has no money at the end of the month and has no savings. When we first split he took out a high interest loan to go on holiday which he ended up telling me about 6 months ago or so. In the past he's had gambling struggles and alcohol issues and when he left he was in a largish overdraft. We've discussed how finances will work when he moves back in but I just cannot get my head around him not having any money when he's had so much income to himself. I don't want to get back into a situation where things could go wrong because I don't want to confuse DD anymore than she has already endured. I don't believe he's gambling anymore but things just aren't adding up.
AIBU to ask to see his bank account?