Just can’t be bothered - lazy/depressed?

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I just can’t be bothered to do anything- I’ve been like this for a few years now and im wondering if I’m just really lazy or depressed?
I’m writing this post to see if anyone else feels the same way?
Since lockdown my life isn’t changed all that much. I was really happy during lockdown and since then just can’t bebothered to do anything

Examples - cooking can’t ever be bothered to cook

Going to a wedding this weekend- normally I’d buy something new and get nails done - can’t be bothered just wearing an old dress

gigs/theatres just seem too much effort- getting there-parking-getting home. So I decline all these types of outings

parties - just can’t be bothered to get all dressed up to make
boring small talk

Even meeting up with mates just feels to much effort

happy just at home in bed or pottering around tidying up

anyone else relate? Could this be depression?

I feel the same since lockdown. Just flat, can't be arsed.

I stared HRT and perked up a bit for 6 months but I'm back to flat, tweaking my dose and about to start working out, exercising more to see if that helps.

It's hard to get going, I've had to force myself to exercise. But I'll try everything.

Maybe also look at bloods and food, see if you are missing anything?

Have you spoken to anyone? Your GP

This could be me writing this. I've had a few times where the frig is empty, but can't be bothered to go, do online pickup or delivery. I have canceled plans, etc., because I don't have the energy to make the effort.

It is depression. I started moving this week, as in excercise. I have to say the next 24 hours were different. I cooked, ran errands. Woke today and I can't be bothered. I'm going to get dressed and go for a walk. I know it will make a difference.

If it's just the case that you are stuck in a rut I find the best thing to do is not lean into it. Get yourself going and do stuff and I find the energy comes. Otherwise it's just too easy ro drift along. So make plans and stick to them.

How old are you, haven't got my glasses on so may have missed it if you said! I'm like this, delights of peri.

I’m 36
I don’t feel depressed- but just can’t wait for the day to end so I can get back into bed

i work part time

I asked my husband if I could give up Work. I don’t need any money to live because I don’t do anything. All I would need is a pot of tea and a library card because all I wanna do is sit in bed drinking tea and read.

he said no 😭

It’s the six weeks holidays coming up soon and I’m panicking because I know I’m gonna have to do stuff with the kids to keep them occupied. My idea of hell.

I just can’t be bothered. I just want to live under my duvet.

Yep. Feel the same. But I can’t even be bothered to tidy so everything is a mess on top of everything else. I’ve started antidepressants and gym once a week but motivation is still zero. I have a lot of stress in my living situation though and think I’m in freeze and have been for years. I don’t even work, apart from some freelance at home.

I really relate to this being a form of ADHD but my GP thinks that it’s totally over diagnosed etc, even though I’ve struggled like this since childhood.

So, I totally empathise. Bed is my favourite place.

Welcome to Emotional Maturity OP. Please do raise a glass to yourself, as it's far more meaningful than a 21st birthday.

You've realised that a lot of what we think are 'musts' are just social conditioning from our caregivers, peer group or other influences.

You've received the memo that nobody is going to a wedding wondering what nail polish you are wearing, or if the fabric you are swathed in that day is from this season or the last.

After many years of going through the motions, your mind is begging you to finally be allowed to abstain from the mind numbing tedium of 'small talk'. You've done your time. You're ok.

Common sense has told you that what used to be a £20 gig ticket and drinks with friends has curiously exploded out of greed into a £250 night out, and you're not falling for it.

It became apparent over time that your house didn't fall down if you didn't Hoover every day.

Lockdown revealed to so many what was superfluous and draining, and they feel wiser for it.

Moving a bit every day is probably the most vital thing, but that's not for any other fucker's benefit. That's for you, entirely.

I can empathise. I was made redundant during lockdown and decided not to look for work. This was a decision made with my DH. I cook, I clean, I garden which I'm happy doing but I really can't be bothered to do much else. We are not exactly short of money but need to budget like most people but I now have the mindset that I shouldn't really do anything that isn't necessary and is wasteful. What is the point of going somewhere just for the hell of it when it is
Purposeless? I certainly don't feel depressed just feel that my whole mindset has altered.

isn’t the OP feeling it’s about more than just not being bothered about clothes, nail varnish? I think that she doesn’t really want to do anything at all so makes the minimum effort, which I totally understand.

Well said!

Depression can absolutely look just like what you've described, OP.

Worth also checking your ferritin, B12 and vitamin D levels as those can feed in if deficient.

That may be your current thinking, @Mydahliasareshit, but it doesn't actually fit with what OP is saying. Beware of projection.

She has children, a family. This isn’t emotional maturity, wanting to lay in bed all day, not wishing to do stuff with your kids. grow up.

Ah...'grow up'.🤣 The knee jerk phrase of the supercilious but hard-of-thinking.

I'm in my sixth decade, thanks anyway, and pretty familiar with what OP describes feeling.