We are no longer staying here so just a hypothetical as me and DW didn’t agree, For background, myself and DW visited a resort, it was a complimentary stay they offered due to a previous issue which we were very grateful for and consider the issue resolved. In the past we have attended this location many times and always buy to the room a very fancy dairy-free chocolate box, which they sell as we are vegan due to DW’s severe milk allergy. This time we found in our accommodation they had left us a complimentary box of regular chocolates (equal in value) with a kind note welcoming us. DW found the gesture nice (as did I) however I suggested thanking them but asking if we could switch it for the chocolate we normally get (which I know for a fact they have) however she thought this was very rude and ungrateful and thought we should just leave the chocolate in the room. Who is being unreasonable?
YABU: you were right to just leave it, it would be very rude to ask to exchange something that was free anyway
YANBU: it isn’t rude to ask and it means their kind gesture isn’t going to waste