Working mum

[Pipsqueak17]

I guess I'm just posting for other people's views to see if anyone has been in similar situations/how it was resolved.
I met my partner a few years ago in Cornwall where I live and work. He was living here for a few months whilst going through a break up/working out what direction his life was going to go in. I was going through a divorce.
Skip a few years and we have a daughter together and the idea was we would both work part time and raise her/support the family together.
As time has gone on, I have gone back to work 3 days a week but he has really struggled to get regular clients.
He had a good client list before (self employed consultant in quite a niche field) but now he isn't able to regularly travel to London due to being the main school pick up/drop off and with the effects of Covid his client list has pretty much dwindled to nothing.
I have a good job and have been able to pay all the bills/give him living money when needed (most months) but the stress is now getting on top of me being the only breadwinner. Money is getting tighter all the time and I'm starting to resent giving him most of my free income each month.
I feel he should just get any job for now to help with money, he says if he has to take a job doing something he doesn't want to then he will resent me.
He feels he gave up everything to stay in Cornwall with me and have a child together.
I'm not keen on moving closer to London unless he has a full time job and steady income, as the house we live in is mine and I have a large mortgage on it that needs large monthly payments.
We would be unable to rent it out for various reasons so would still need to pay for it even if renting a house elsewhere.
Am I being unreasonable? Should I just keep my mouth shut and keep hoping the work in his field will pick up (it's been 3 years) or should I be more direct and tell him he needs to suck it up and find work doing something else for now?
If I do I know he will resent me even more than he probably already does.
I know he's miserable that his career has dwindled, he worked really hard for a long time to get where he was but the work just isn't in Cornwall and he's reluctant/unable to travel regularly for it now we have our daughter.
Something has to change.

he needs to get a job

You're both being unreasonable. He needs to get a job and you need to consider selling up and moving somewhere with better prospects.

I think he’s being unfair blaming you, he did decide to stay in Cornwall yes but not for you but for himself to be happy he could have ended the relationship and moved back to London. He does need a job yes, financial strain is horrible and he shouldn’t expect you to shoulder all the financial responsibility.

Well theres an offer you don’t get every day

Could you work 5 days a week and have him become a proper stay at home dad with all the responsibilities that go along with that role? Plenty on men support their partners to stay at home with the children.

If you wouldn't be happy with that kind of arrangement, then you need to move to where his work is. She you sure you can't sell or rent your house out? Or air bb&b it?

Could you rearrange your hours so he doesn't have to do the school drop offs/pick ups and can get into London more, if this is all that's stopping his business from picking back up (and hope it isn't too late and he's lost clients due to it) it should mean he can start contributing again and have a job he loves. If you can't change your hours, can you get a childminder or school clubs for the times you can't cover?

If this is really unfeasible, could you change your days so you do 3 together that leaves him 2 days together and could he go to London for those 2 days (maybe he does Thursday and Friday, and perhaps stays til Saturday whilst building the business back up)?

Otherwise he does need to start thinking about what else he wants to do in life and accept we can't all work our dream job - but that doesn't mean you can't find something else that you enjoy!

Good luck.