How did having a baby impact your relationship/marriage with your partner?

[user666555]

Hello,

6M PP and I feel as though PP has just changed me. I don't feel as connected to my partner and I feel guilty even typing this. I still love him to bits don't get me wrong, but I would rather spend time alone (any spare free time I have after DD goes to sleep for example). I just feel really annoyed and irritated by DP too.

He does help when he's not at work with DD but I feel slightly resentful that my life has changed so much whereas his hasn't changed as much.

Is this normal? How did your relationship change after a baby? Will things get better?

I think that’s really normal to be honest OP and it’s definitely something you have to both actively work at in order to keep the relationship alive. It has to be more of a conscious choice to put effort into your relationship once you have a baby I think, I’m also postpartum and it’s the little things we used to do together like a couple of hours in the pub, a trip out for evening meal, watching a film cuddled on the sofa, even just going out for a drive/walk, now we have a baby every minute she’s awake is all about her and what she needs (rightly so) but it does mean that we have to actively choose to make some time & effort with each other whereas before we had her all of our spare time was our fun time and our evenings were our own! X