To wonder why I bother.

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Always worked hard but I wonder why. I'm senior in my role and just feel I'm taking too much on. Most of this stuff is other people's jobs but they're off sick, have adjustments, moan so much I want to cut my head off so I can't hear them. Aibu to just stick to my work and my level and do no more ?

I know it's easier said than done but as a senior manager in a former life your type of experiences crept up on me too. In the end I reckoned most of it was either laziness or lack of confidence on those who repeatedly landed stuff on my desk, i.e. those who should have finished it themselves!

It took a while to get a handle on it, but I learned to delegate effectively and give praise for work well done, and bad marks at appraisals for those who just didn't bother to finish the task themselves. Over time it worked, but in the beginning it was my own fault really.

I'm retired now thank the stars. Hope you get somewhere with this.

I've been too nice and it's bitten me on the arse. From now on I'm staying in my lane and looking after myself. My manager above me is useless and says there's nothing she can do ! I'm fed up of talking about it.

The job is flexible so i stay and I'm bloody good at it.

They can't help being off sick and needing adjustments. I've been off work for more
Than 2 months. I'm virtually housebound due to my illness. I've had to cancel a holiday. I'd like nothing more than to get back to work and get everything back to normal.

I also have a few minor adjustments because I'm autistic.

I dont mind adjustments that's none of my business but every single person in the team has them so it's a bit much. It means the people who can do full duties are put upon.

Also some of them admit to taking time off when it's not needed.

@dizzydizzydizzy you don’t sound like you are all about self interest and laziness though. People who use adjustments appropriately are not the problem. People who are more interested in self interest than their ethical obligation to fulfil their role are the problem. I realise that’s the simplistic version but if someone needed support and adjustments I’d do whatever I could to support that if they wanted to do a good job. Sadly not everyone shares a good work ethic.

Then I get to hear about all the ones threatening to take 6 months off for stress. 😐

Can you think hard about what adjustments you might need?
Dunno.This might all be too much for you.
Your Line Manager might have to spring into action

Rather than adjustments I'm just not taking on alp types of work that's not mine. Let the lists go sky high. Not my job.

It sounds very much like a communication issue...YOUR communication issue. Rather than sulking and stropping about 'feeling hard done by' with all this extra work you have taken on (that other people are not doing), you need to have a professional discussion!

You're probably right...these extra jobs aren't your responsibility...but behaving like a teenager and stomping your feet saying 'I'm just not gonna do it!!!' is very childish!

Make an appointment with your line manager and calmly, rationally, professionally, talk about how the extra workload is affecting you, and ask them to either redistribute it fairly or to come up with a plan moving forward to deal with the reduced output of your co-workers.

Not anymore, but I used to deal with staffing / absence and had to arrange cover. Obviously most were genuine absences, but some were people who just hated their jobs and didn't want to do them, but instead of moving on, they just called in sick all the time. Probably once every two weeks when they'd take a minimum of two days off.

So I do feel your pain!

I now do a much lower level job where I just do my job and go home. Had to take a payout but the lower stress is worth it.

Paycut*

I have done this and line manager just gives platitudes. And I'll be as stroppy as I want thanks.