to expect dp to make up his god-damn mind about a third baby *before* i get pregnant!!!!!

[PinkTulips]

I thought we'd agreed about it the other day!!!!

HE decided not to buy condoms and go for it

HE has been telling me to take my folic acid

yet he still claims he doesn't think we can afford a third and is worried that a third would be, and i quote; 'chancing our luck. we already have 2 healthy kids'

when is he planning on making up his mind..... in the delivery ward?!

Well if he's not using a condom and not asking you to use anything then I think he has made up his mind really. Good Luck

fear of the unknown by the sounds of it....

Suppose most of us are like this before we have lo's...we want them YET when we start to try or even find out we are expecting its like "sh1t" what are we going to do...

Go for it,he isn't put up much of a fight is he really . Good luck x

PT, this could so easily be a dh & me conversation, except we haven't ditched the protection. Not as brave as you !

Think he's just sounding out his insecurities and wanting to tell him no, it'll be fab, best decision we've ever made etc.

IME when he sees the first scan.

DH backtracked amazingly as soon as he realised I was very likely to be pregnant with DC3 (we had been trying for a long time btw) he is now really excited (5 weeks to go). tbh, not sure they are ever 100% sure about these things, they don't have the neccessary hormones for that sort of certainty.

northernlurker makes a very good point!

Best of luck

lol... i just know that every time it gets tough i'm going to have 'well you wanted a third' thrown at me.

the really annoying part is we had a long, serious chat the other night and i thought, honestly thought, we'd agreed, without me bullying him into it.

then today he's started on all the downsides again as if it's still undecided..... yet every day since our talk he's checked to make sure i'm taking the folic acid.

grrrrr!!!!

[head exploding emoticon]

Make him sign for it, like a parcel

...Oh i've had that 'well you wanted a third' routine many times already and he hasn't even been born yet! DH has decided thats not a good thing to say to someone who is incredibly hormonal, suffering PGP, heartburn etc etc and having to look after our other two children alone unexpectly as he has had to work away.

You have 9 months to think up suitable retorts anyway.

pmsl

ugh... he was a bit like this before ds but that was because i got preg whilst bf with no period and he'd lost his job a while before so it tokk 10 weeks of
'i really think i might be pregnant'
'o f*!@, don't say things like that'

at which point i did a test, told him i definitely was and got the response...
'oh shit'

now he claims it was his idea to have them so close together!

• sounds about right - I'll start knitting now shall I?

lol.... dp kept the 'hat' i knitted dd whilst preg to show me whenever i get knitting urges... total disaster

don't know why i'm even getting so stressed about this... it took 2 years before i got pregnant with dd so it's hardly a given that it'll happen any faster this time just because i was lucky with ds.... knowing my luck by the time it happens i'll have changed my mind!!!

BBM... are you a name change by any chance? been gone a while and still trying to figure out who everyone is now!

That's exactly what I get thrown at me - well you wanted a third - like he had no say in the matter?? We tried for over 2 years and decided we were going to give it one last go and I caught that time! Now the third one has put me off kids completely - she's been the hardest one to take care of and is very demanding because I knew she would be the last and therefore she got spoilt rotten.