To be absolutely done with my kids today

[shiteday]

All they’ve done is whine, cry, climb all over me, take things from one another, get in one another’s faces. The second one is quiet the other one makes the other one whinge. I am absolutely sick to death of them both and want to resign from motherhood

Yes it can be utterly shit. Moments of complete head banging exasperation peppered with little moments of joy. I did get asked today why I had so many lines on my neck 🤔 followed by why is your nose big now but was REALLY small when you were little AND you're probably going to be very wrinkly in ten years.

I've just stopped sitting now. I just stand in the kitchen.

Honestly don't know how I'm not a size 8.

I’ve one more year of them both at the same time. Then the older one starts school and hopefully life may be easier. Hopefully.

Are you still allowed to put them in a playpen?

@Cosycover honestly me too. The constant sitting and standing up and bending to pick up shite from the floor should have given me this 🍑 by now

Yes some days are hard enough for me with one DD, and some days she is lovely and amazing and I’m glad of the respite and no other child to look after 😂

I was considering a second but this thread has confirmed that one is enough. Thank you!

Oh jeez @Teacherbee85 don’t base not having a second on a rough day on a freezing cold, windy, rainy day in mid June with a teething, clingy baby. There are a thousand wonderful things about having two but the best one is DD. For all she’s driven me round the bend today I wouldn’t be without her for the world but I’m glad she’s asleep.

Mine are grown now but I get terrible flasbacks when I hear kids whiiiiiiiining. It was the most awful thing about parenthood. I'm kind of dreading being a grandma in case I get the whiny ones.

I must admit I put the TV on a LOT. The Tweenies and Bob The Builder saved my sanity. It hasn't damaged them. They have jobs, homes, partners and decent eyesight.

It does get better.. briefly. And then they're teens... I'm not even going there 😕

Oh, I loved that age range... mine are 7/11/13 and it's fucking relentless... arguing, demanding, fussing about food, getting ready for clubs, fussing about bathtime and bedtime, policing devices all the time, all while trying to cling on to a job as a single parent... I'd do anything to rewind to 6,4 and baby when it all seemed so straightforward (other than getting divorced at that time 😂)
I've always had really short mat leave though so maybe that's why I loved it?

Same age gap here too, pretty much @shiteday ! 13m and 3.5yo!

For playing at home, if one has something the other wants, my youngest has started whacking back and my eldest doesn't like it 😆 the oven timer gets set as a turn-taking reminder.

It's so much better when we're out, come rain or shine though. Our local park is also deserted in even the slightest bit of rain 😆 and it's a learning experience for them. Today mine learnt bubbles are less effective in the rain. It has been pi$$ing it down! Wipe down with a towel as soon as we get in the door, shovel some food down them, toss them in the bath. All good.

Is your youngest mobile yet? Mine run in opposite directions 🥴

Do we have the same children? 👀

FT work and nursery is your friend OP

No nursery or pre school? Oh my goodness I'd lose my mind! Send them to pre school and nursery even just 1 day a week. Its good for them too especially before starting school.

I’m sure I’ve talked about nursery in an earlier post - sorry to sound like a grumpy arse but it’s hardly the worlds longest thread.

FT nursery and FT work is not the answer for me. I teach so will have the darlings in school holidays when they are school age. Being part time means I can have a couple of days a week ‘off’ when they are both at school. Only three years to go …

I had 4 under 6. Ten years on and the whining out of all of them over half term drove me demented. The weather was shit, we were keeping things calm and unexciting for the GCSE revising teen and the others wound each other (and me) all the time. It’s actually been lovely being back at school (which is where I work too).

Looking back, these days do fade and you are left with the ‘wuv oo Mumma’s and the soft fat toddler arms round your neck and the milky baby smell as memories. But it’s bloody hard graft getting there! Hang in there.

I hear ya OP.

Weve all bad days like this and it’s nice to know we are not alone <chings glass of gin with OP>

Its good to have a rant and get all those frustrations out. It can be very draining and trying looking after demanding small humans all day .... countdown to bed time. Try and think of something you can do to relax, or have time for you, even if its something simple like having a pee on your own in peace or sitting in silence having a cuppa tea or similar or the luxury of relaxing on the sofa with a tv prog of your choice x

Everyone says to me how quickly time passes and they grow up. If you can, try and pause, take a breath and give them a hug x hopefully they wont winge for two seconds and thats a two second breather. Phew.

There will be better days and it does get easier .

I think I'd be more inclined if the weather wasn't so crap all the time!

I hope you have a better day with them today x

I will - I only have one 🤣

Sorry wasn't meant to be funny or offend, just acknowledging the absolute never ending relentlessness of it.