Male friend and I got a bit drunk a couple of months back and had a bit of a fumble.
A few days later, he l had to rush back to his home country as his dad was sick.
Sadly, his dad passed away and he's since come back to the U.K.
He's really not doing ok after the loss. Every time I see him he looks worse. Mentally and physically he's declining so much.
I think I'm his only close female friend and from what I gather, he's not talking to anyone else about it. We always meet in a group and he does open up to me about it when I see him, but we don't get to talk much as there are people around. He always seems desperate to talk though.
Saw him a couple of evenings ago with the group and he was such a state. Drinking way too much, physically unwell, barely coherent (even before the drink). Just so clearly in pieces.
I want to reach out to him separate from the group and asks if he wants to chat. He clearly really needs a listening friend right now,
However, because of our recent "activities", I feel like weird about it. He's really vulnerable right now and something about reaching out to him to offer a listening ear, seems off. Predatory almost???
That said, he really really needs help. It's like watching a train wreck right now.