To not be able to forget about it and move on?

[Lonelymama88]

I will try to make this as short as possible but it’s a long story..
my best friend stopped talking to me for over 6 months in 2022 (I wrote a whole post on here about it), we ended up talking again, although I kept her at arms length as I didn’t want to be hurt again. Christmas time last year we got quite close again. Fast forward to middle of January a mutual friend who I happen to work with asked me if I thought my best friend was having an affair with a married man (something she has been accused of before), I defended my best friend and carried on the conversation. Come the beginning of Feb I received a message from my best friend asking me if I told our mutual friend that she had told me the man she was excused of having an affair with was actually having an affair with someone else! I was shocked and explained that I had defended her and not said anything about anyone having affairs with anyone else. Turned out our mutual friend decided to twisted a comment I had made about said married man being really good friends with another woman. I almost lost my job over this as well, luckily I had 2 witnesses who heard the whole conversation and agreed I didn’t say what I was accused of. I spoke to my best friend and thought we had sorted things out, however she has completely stopped talking to me again.
I am really hurt that she believes I would say anything like that but also totally confused why she has completely stopped talking to me again.
AIBU for not being able to just forget it and move on like everyone is telling me to?

This is what I'm wondering.

I'm wondering if this was the part that got her threatened with the sack.

Because there's a heavy implication there that he is having an affair, when said in the context of someone asking if the OP's friend is having an affair with him.

Right! Get yourself a lawyer OP, you’re being cross examined!

Never heard of a probationary period when working at a school. Not saying they don’t exist but never heard of that being how things are done in education.

Saying things about people “being good friends” nudge nudge wink wink is likely to end up causing bother.

The thing is, you can never defend anyone because you don't know what they capable of.

You may think my friend would never do that But they could.

Moral of the story "stay silent " especially at work.

just seen my spelling mistake before it's pointed out 😀

@Lonelymama88 the only way you will know is to ask her. If she says it’s bothered her you can try to set the record straight, or not. If you try and no joy, you can decide enough’s enough. She sounds like hard work and doesn’t trust you to have her back either.