I need some advice of how to get through to my husband that I cannot manage all he expects me to do with his business.
I am approaching 65, had serious medical issues, early retirement 8 years ago and have a husband who expects me to be his 'partner' in his business which is maintaining gardens for 3 clients, Designing and laying of new gardens, tree surgery and hedge maintenance. I haven't the physical strength now after illness either. He treats me, when I work with him, like his mate, fetch this, carry that, tidy that, hold that etc, and quite honestly I am worn out. I weigh about 8.5 stone and I am expected to do this work but also cook and clean the house too. I have my own interests which I really enjoy, but I have to keep cancelling them because he is busy. I have tried and tried to talk to him about anxiousness and the concern that I cannot physically do this work - all he says is don't worry about it, we can sort it, but if I don't go to work with my husband he is so moody and miserable. Its awful.....he has turned into a real grumpy miserable man. He is fine with other people - laughing, chatting; but to me he is ignorant and disrespectful.