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Work Socials - who pays?

69 replies

StripeK · 13/06/2024 11:18

Hello! My workplace recently put in a Social Committee following feedback from Great Places To Work Survey. I say recently, it was autumn but we've finally had information about the first department social.

It's go karting, with a cost of £44pp (although this may fall if numbers are high enough, not sure by how much). I've had a nosey and the place that's been booked and this is the price they charge. This is way out of my budget and I'm feeling a bit miffed about it as feel excluded because I cannot afford it. I guess I was expecting either cheaper activities to be booked, or for it to be subsidised by the company.

To add, we have a company wide summer party every year which is fully funded but also based around links the company have (for example, we had a mini festival last year but all bands featured at least one member of staff so were performing for free or a discounted rate). We also have department Christmas meals which are normally paid for.

YABU - work social committee events are always fully funded by the employee
YANBU - the company should be paying for part of the activity

OP posts:
LT1982 · 17/06/2024 17:15

My current firm part pays for social events eg meal paid but buy your own drinks.

£44 is steep for one activity. Why not suggest alternatives or join the committee yourself to have input? You can't complain about things people if you don't bother to give them any feed back or suggest alternatives

Mariespip · 17/06/2024 19:44

I also work in a public company with no social budget, but we do have a social committee that mostly organises events within work time - lunch time walks, visiting artists, talks, bring a dish, cake breaks etc. I think some of the funding for this comes from charitable donations (specifically to the staff) and any prizes won.

There are also occasionally events outside of working hours. I have mixed feeling as I do think these can be exclusionary, either financially, or time-wise. Those with commitments outside of work are less likely to attend and miss out on the valuable networking and bonding, which has also led to some little cliques to develop.

Mimimimi1234 · 17/06/2024 22:29

Ive always had fully funded work events, it must depend on the company looking at these posts

Nipsmum · 18/06/2024 18:23

Surely these functions are not compulsory. Don't go if you can't afford it.

ShaunaSadeki · 18/06/2024 18:30

My work is very generous on this front, we get summer and Christmas parties, all food and drink, travel and hotel. Then quarterly socials in our teams with travel, hotel and dinner or an activity (sip and paint or escape room or whatever we choose). We are very lucky.

JaceLancs · 18/06/2024 18:36

I’m in the voluntary sector and budgets are tight
Xmas do - we all pay our own food and as CEO I pick up the drinks tab, coffees etc and buy everyone a gift
team building events are free to all staff including refreshments
social events a mixture so recently bought team tickets for a scavenger type game - staff wanted to meet first for food so paid for that themselves
theatre and music events are optional and everyone pays for their own

Beastieboys · 18/06/2024 18:43

TotalAbsenceOfImperialRaiment · 17/06/2024 08:36

I'm in a public sector organisation. We have no social budget at all.

Was just about to say that.......

Shinyandnew1 · 18/06/2024 18:48

jamjar3 · 17/06/2024 08:34

So mine isn't in regards to work activities...

But just for insight...

My son goes to public school (we are scotland uk).

He is in primary 7 and will start high school in August.

Just in past few months alone we have had to pay for.

Residential trip- 3 nights 4 days away at a cost of £240 or there abouts. Per child
Trip to titanic museum in Belfast this cost £65 per child.
P7 end of year trip to laser quest at a cost of £20 per child.
Also got notice on Thursday 13th just there when he came home.from high-school visit that he will be going on a 1 day team building exercise in August at start of high school and it was to be paid for, you guessed it 13th June. At a cost of £15 perchild
We also had to purchase 2 PE tshirst as part of PE kit at a cost of £15 for 2 tshirts.

So yeah the school have dwindled money from us left right and centre past few months.

And it's been a struggle trying to afford it.

Average take home pay is about 1200 in UK. <<< basic job full time Hours.

Cost of living has gone up but our pay hasn't.

Probably a stupid question but does public school mean the same in Scotland as it does in England?

PorridgeEater · 18/06/2024 20:19

A company that does this would not be on my "Great Places to Work" list.
Work socials should be paid for by work - or go out for a meal with colleagues who are friends.

WappityWabbit · 18/06/2024 20:44

If a work social isn't fully paid for by work, I'd give it a swerve.

To be honest, it sounds like a shitty tick box exercise that some numpty who talks only in buzz phrases has come up with. Ugh! 😂

burnoutbabe · 18/06/2024 20:47

PorridgeEater · 18/06/2024 20:19

A company that does this would not be on my "Great Places to Work" list.
Work socials should be paid for by work - or go out for a meal with colleagues who are friends.

Oh i don't know.

If u have just moved to say London on a graduate scheme, then having a range of organised options for me to attend would be great, even if I am paying.

PorridgeEater · 18/06/2024 21:30

If you've moved to a new area and are lonely I can see you might want to do it. All depends on circumstances doesn't it.

Yourcatisnotsorry · 18/06/2024 22:57

I’ve worked in a range of places and it really varies. Some did nothing for socials, some gave a measly amount (£10 a head towards a Christmas party), some regularly threw lavish parties all expenses paid. One firm did awesome free events often internationally, river cruises with entertainment and all drinks and food, ski trips, regular free dinners and drinks, free drinks in the office every week, free breakfasts, party nights including decent djs and bands, climbing the O2, wine tasting events, sports events, arts classes etc. sadly they went bust!

Pineapplecolada1 · 19/06/2024 00:11

I’m a teacher and I’ve never had any sort of meal paid for. I fact not even a cup of coffee. We all have to pay for tea/coffee in the staff room!!

EBearhug · 19/06/2024 02:08

Shinyandnew1 · 18/06/2024 18:48

Probably a stupid question but does public school mean the same in Scotland as it does in England?

HMC lists over 20 schools in Scotland, so one would assume so.

angelfacecuti75 · 19/06/2024 08:54

Ask if it could be booked further in advance and to pay bit by bit next time ?

Hmm1234 · 19/06/2024 09:50

The manager/ boss on the company card

BiddyPop · 20/06/2024 15:35

I work in the public sector. Our sports and social club has a weekly membership fee of 75p which is deducted at source by payroll (but it's voluntary so you have to sign up to it before paying).

The SSC organises the annual Christmas party and usually a summer event - we have to pay for the tickets but get a reduction if a member. Costs normally kept low anyway.

The SSC also organises occasional groups wanting to go to the cinema or theatre - to get a group together for a group discount and usually gives a contribution which works out about an extra €5-10 off the ticket price, depending on numbers. Sometimes there might be a group organises a karting event or bowling (I can remember about 3 of those over 15 years) - again facilitates group discount and they will give a fixed contribution to be split between everyone who attends.

And they gave a contribution to 1st set of yoga and Pilates classes at lunchtime, and to 1sr term when we set up a workplace choir and paid for conductor (so members still paid but it was cheaper 1st term to get off the ground).

SSC also organises various charity events like quizzes or groups for charity races etc - where they do the legwork but everyone pays same entrance fee - those are more about getting a good crowd together using an existing network.

If we organise an event like a section lunch, or meal at Christmas for our division, we each pay our own way fully, although managers often cover cost of wine with a meal and everyone on the team team generally adds a bit extra each (maybe €4 on top of €25 for own meal) which covers cost of meal of the secretarial staff.

Wotcher · 20/06/2024 15:38

MaryBethMayfair · 13/06/2024 11:25

In my experience, events are funded by the attendees. The employer is merely providing a platform for people to be social.
I do agree that £44pp is expensive however I'd imagine there is no expectation that everyone will a) want to go b) be available to go.

The building I work in has a social committee that does things like:

  • International Food Day: an hour or two where people bring along food they have made/bought
  • Bakery Day: as above but baked gods
  • Board Game nights
  • Treasure hunts (cringe)
  • Wellbeing walks, over lunchtimes
  • Coffee mornings

I wish they'd do a book club. Might suggest it!

What’s wrong with treasure hunts? I think that sounds fun.

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