To feel like it's hard to find interesting enough men

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Not saying they have to constantly be doing something riveting and thrill-seeking as nobody does.
However several I've met just feel so bland. No real passions, just watch the footy/motorsports.
Go on the odd day out with mates.
No interest in other languages. No interest in learning an instrument or a new craft or anything.

Never lived anywhere other than their hometown. No ambitions. I'm not sure if I'm being too harsh, but they just don't inspire me at all, however I'm sure many people are like this.
Not sure if I'm expecting too much? It doesn't even have to come down to money, you can do or learn many things cheaply or for free.

Not sure it’s just men - how many people of any sex so you meet who are interesting?

I've met a few. Just feel like these men don't have much to offer but then are put off by the slightest thing about a woman.

I have to agree with this. I've noticed just a lack of ambition with men who are searching for a partner, someone to give them more than they're willing to offer. I've got friends finding the dating scene pretty bleak at the moment.

That's it yes, they seem to expect the world yet offer nothing.

I think that it depends on were your home town is. There's a lot to be said for not being an adrenaline junkie and always thinking that there's something better out there, or to put it simply, being content with your lot. You just aren't compatible with them.
I can't stand people who think that they are morally superior because they always have to be striving and achieving something new.

The alternative , men who’ve always prioritised their hobbies above everything else, are widely available. Especially amongst the ones who have already had children.

I don't think it's either or?

Get off the dating apps and do mixed group hobbies long term to get yourself in front of men who like doing stuff rather than woman hunting.

I'm with you on this OP. We only have one life to live, no need to spend it doing the same old boring shit everyone else does. I'd only want to be with someone who has interests and curiosity.

That’s what my single friends say! Men and women…

I have recently found two who I'm on the phone to laughing for hours
Met them both at events/private parties
They are out there

Agree dating apps are full of anti social weirdos it's rare you find a gem

guys you meet on the dating apps will be focussed on dating/sex/booking out their weeks with chatting to women and arranging meets. That's why they're on a dating app

Apart from work they will be busy chasing and chatting to women.

They tend to keep their interests and hobbies separate from the women they are chatting to (if they have any). "Dating" takes up a lot of time and energy.

The interests they put on their profiles are often complete nonsense or you never actually see them doing them.

If you find some networks in your city or local area, the men who are regularly committing the time to turn up to a book club or language meet will have those interests.

Especially if the activity needs some preparation and commitment or vetting.

If it's just an easy access meet, everyone is judging on looks or first impressions a good job title.

So if it's a hiking group with an easy hike, or a meet in the pub, there's less screening and more people just looking for a date.

however, if everyone (including you) has to make an intellectual or time commitment then you'll get people who have done the same. Less people but more in common.

it's a different vibe - the guys tend to be less highly sexed or pushy but if you want to get to know someone slowly, friends first, things on common, this may be the way?

Of course, avoid groups if there's hardly anyone there or not many new people or an unfriendly or closed vibe.

But if there's regularly new men and women and people actually chat, then stick with it. Location may help - city centres can be better for this.

If you're regularly socialising with a lot of people who have certain interests and values and lifestyle, it really increases the chances of meeting a date with those interests and values.