To ask if a new relationship could work when living 2hrs away from each other?

[Ronns]

Purely based on distance. 2 hrs (potentially more depending on train strikes) for 2 busy professionals.

Can see each other every 2-3 weeks for a day or two over the weekend. No moving closer to each other is currently on the cards.

Thought? How easily can this be maintained or fizzled out?

TIA

Probably be ok for six months and then fizzle unless one of you moves I would have thought.

It worked for us. We ended up getting married. We did live together after getting married 😁

What do you want out of this? A bit of companionship where you can meet half way more regularly and do activities or potentially a long term relationship in which case no.

It might work out cheaper than the train tickets to go half way and stay at a Premier Inn not massively romantic but ok for a short time .

The aim would be a long term relationship but not sure how viable it is…
There is also a bit of an age gap issue, and some things not fully tied off with my ex. We are broken up but still speak and it’s still painful and confusing.

Worked for us. We did long distance (2.5 hours, saw each other every other weekend) from 18 to 23, and then DH worked abroad for two years after we married when we saw each other every three months or so.

It was difficult at times but in our case it gave us a really good foundation in that our relationship was based pretty firmly on communication. We still text a lot even living together.

The age gap and unresolved ex sound much more problematic though.

The age gap is not massive but there is a bit and if we want children it needs to be pretty much in the next year or so, so pressure is on.
Ex situation is just complicated. It’s over but still talk.

Sounds like you're not fully invested in your current relationship if your ex is still causing strong emotions. That's understandable, but not a good foundation for a long distance relationship and definitely not for thinking about having kids.

Not sure if it’s wrong emotions, but there is defo some emotions still.
Tough, not sure where I am in my own life as is…

I did this but we were both flexible re moving and he moved up to be with me after 6 months.

That was 15 years ago and we are still together.

If neither of you can move in the foreseeable I don't think it has much chance though

Then just no.

On that timetable you basically need to decide whonis moving and get on with it.

I don't think that's wise either.

My advice is to fish in a closer pond.

DH and I did 2 years of me in London him in midlands. That was 25 years ago (that we met). Still together now… although it took for me to make the move (partly to study also) but it worked out.
Good luck op

It has been for me. 3 hours travel. Saw each other fortnightly. Now moved in together and getting a new place. Also have a large gap!!!

It can work of course but you need to sort out your feelings for your ex first. Or it's a no.

100% this

We lived at opposite ends of the UK for four years before getting married. We moved overseas into our first shared home. Been married for over 20 years now.