Anyone long-term single through choice?

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The only reason I would even want to consider anyone now is if I were to have a child.
Otherwise, a relationship would bring me zero benefit. Even with the 'right' man. I may be cynical but I don't even believe in the idea that there's a right man, 95% of the ones I've encountered have been absolute tossers.

Very good at ghosting, slow fading, cheating, suddenly losing interest when the chase is over, lying, criticising and so on.

I've got a small handful of good friends and several acquaintances but the only people I truly depend on are my family and I'm scared I'll be too lonely once they're no longer around.

Friendships can come and go and do I don't like to get too dependent on them. Anyway back to the men thing, there's so much societal pressure to couple up, marry and so on.

I'm 33, I am happy with who I am. I'm not good at the whole letting men chase me and frankly I don't want to be. Has anyone chosen to be single for several years at least and no intention of changing?

I’m actively choosing to be long term single. Been divorced for 6 years soon. After a two decade marriage, it’s bliss.

There's one man I work with, he's absolutely lovely. So warm, open, pleasant and genuine, I don't know many like him. However he has quite a regular weed habit.

I'm glad you're happier! It does seem like so many people are married/coupled up, I understand the companionship element and societal pressure but so many relationships are stressful, they were for me anyway.
I'm in control of my time and money, I've lost money as a result of 2 exes and it's important for me to not experience that again.

100% agree. I was always told I was crap with money. Turns out that I’m great with money when left in control of my finances

Exactly the same here, funny that isn't it 🤣

Yes me. No intention of having another relationship.

Yup. My husband left when I was 31 and I decided then that I would remain single. 12 years on and I've never waivered from that decision It is very peaceful.

I do get a lot of "what a waste" and "you deserve a nice man" commenta though so be prepared for that. People mean well but some really cannot accept a woman can be single by choice.

I was long term “single” for 10 years. Had FWB/casual dating for the most part as I had a young child and didn’t want to introduce her to random guys I wasn’t sure about. I did 3 years celibate and no dating before my current relationship and tbh wish I’d have kept it that way!

In my experience the best part of a relationship is the beginning when they are on their best behaviour and enjoying the chase. When they have you it usually goes down hill.

Also don’t have a child because you feel it’s a necessity - there aren’t many men who actually step up and play their part so chances are you’ll be doing that by yourself anyway!

I chose to remain single in my 20s, 40 years ago, and have never wavered - its a happy peaceful life

I've been single since I was widowed over a decade ago and have zero intention or interest in another relationship. I'm perfectly happy as I am

I'm with you OP. I feel a bit ashamed at how long I've been single for. I just imagine sharing a home with a man again. I agree. There are so few good ones around. Compared to the amount of good women I know!!! I'm mostly happy on my own. Sometimes I do long for someone to talk to but I can usually sort that with a chat with a good friend. I do wish I could share my life with someone but I'm too picky now. I can't be arsed with so many men. Most of them to be honest!