To not be able to stop apologising to people?

[CherryBerry99]

I didn't know where the best place to post this was.

But I have a problem when I get it into my head that I have annoyed someone and then I started apologising and can't stop. It's usually with people I'm close to like friends and people that I don't want to think negatively of me. I feel like they don't accept my apology or I haven't apologised 'enough' so I keep going round and round.
Then the more I apologise the more guilty I feel for burdening them. My friends are generally understanding, but I don't want this to be the case anymore. I don't want to risk ruining relationships because I'm trying so hard to be seen as a 'good person'.
I didn't have a great childhood, there was a lot of emotional abuse at home and that definitely contributes. I have had a lot of therapy and am in a much better place than I ever was, but this remains a major issue.
Does anyone have any advice or experience from dealing with similar that might be helpful? As I really can't go on like this.

Thanks

I am the same. For me it is a self esteem issue and an anxiety issue. I have anxiety so tend to respond in 'fawn' and people pleasing mode. I am 51 and have started a series of group counselling sessions that deal with exactly this and it's already been really eye opening for me.

Is there something like this around you? It's a tiring and stressful way to go through life and I am guessing that if this is an issue for you then you have negative thoughts about yourself and life is hard at times.

Oh to add- I have had loads of counselling over the years but the group therapy stuff is working better for me. It's not just me talking to the therapist (which I then get anxious and apologetic about!!) it's a group of us talking through our feelings with trained counsellors and seeing the similarities between us is quite something and affirming for me.

I think the suggestion of finding group therapy to discuss this is brilliant. It's really the kind of question that is best discussed with your own therapist, but my thought is that because of your difficult childhood you probably lack an internal 'soother', a voice inside you which assures you at difficult moments that it's OK, you haven't done anything that bad, you've said sorry, and these people love you and will forgive you, so there's no need to keep on apologising. If you can tell yourself this in the gentle way you'd say it to someone vulnerable who you love, and really take in in, you might be able to take the risk of leaving things be after one apology.