To wonder why he is texting less and is it worth bringing up?

[VioletW]

Since we started dating nearly a year ago, my boyfriend has always been consistent in contacting me in the morning and at night before bed no matter how late it is if he was at a hobby before or whatever

For about a month now I've noticed he sometimes won't contact me in the morning anymore or in the evening. Maybe 24 hours will pass.This is unusual because it's a change in pattern. We still talk at least once a day.

I reckon he's just got comfy but on the other hand I find myself missing those touch points before and after work.

That said it's not really a hill I want to die on. Would you bring it up or not?

Maybe he has got comfy.

Maybe he has got bored of always being the one who is a expected to make contact first thing every morning. Do you message him to say good morning?

@Createausername1970 I do yes.

It's basically always an unwritten rule that if one of us contacts at night, the other will message in the morning.

Everything is still fine when we are together but I suppose it makes me feel a bit disconnected. At the same time I don't like having to inspire him to contact me more than he naturally wants to.

If everything else is going well and you are seeing each other consistently then you should try regulate your emotions and look at why you need that one liner every day.

People are too reliant on texting these days and seeing it as a form of intimacy when it’s the lowest, absolute bare effort to send two or three words. You can copy and paste Good morning beautiful/ sexy / handsome etc and send it to 10 people in less than 1 minute.

Actions, effort, conversations and quality time spent together are better indicators of a healthy relationship.

if he’s pulling away , making excuses, too busy to see you etc only then there’s something to think about.

@Bubblegum922 yes we are seeing each other and initiating plans about equally I'd say.

For me these text chats during the day are conversations. So I know I'm talking about good morning/night but he's actually not replied at all to any messages since yesterday morning.

It bothers me but I'm reluctant to make it into an issue and spoil things. I know you're right about quality time.

I'm a bit confused. Your OP makes it seem that he's simply omitted a few good morning / good night texts, but your update seems to suggest he's actually ignoring some of your texts?

Personally I'd find the expectation for morning and night texts a bit suffocating in a relationship, especially a year in. So it could be that he's gotten comfortable in the relationship and doesn't think that frequency of texting needs to be sustained long-term.

But if you're sending him texts that he's ignoring, that's a different issue entirely and should be addressed.

Op it sounds like you need more communication/transparency with the change in communication. Your needs matter it's not a great sign of the relationship If you feel you will rock the boat by bringing up your needs.

If you reversed the situation would you want you partner to feel uneasy to bring up his needs? Would you feel angry with him for needing more communication? Or would you discuss and meet somewhere in the middle that felt good to you both?

Only you can have this discussion with your partner and see why the change and how they react to your needs.

I personally need a good amount of daily communication it's easier for me to text as I'm wfh but I respect my husband has meetings/is on site at a workplace. So we both felt heard and understood we met in the middle and have a routine of when we chat. When we are with eachother we may exchange a run down of the day so we feel on the same page and connected. If my husband was to suddenly start ignoring my messages for a whole 24hrs he knows this would concern me/ allow disconnection that's not what he wants and he makes every effort to be transparent and communicative as do I. It's so very important to value eachothers needs.

This relationship really isn't for you, is it.
considering you have had to post a new thread about your boyfriend today.