Not reporting to police

[Nevertriedoysters]

NC as could be outing
Bit of a story, but cutting long story short
I own a house where 2 of my 3 sons were living and youngest still does , I moved away to look after elderly parent, i was living with elderly parent , house was promised verbally to sons on death of their grandparent as I was promised share of inheritance, in meantime found out eldest sibling owned our parents house by default , but I was still promised share of house as parent requested. Due to family feud Now sibling wants to give her nephews the money to buy house , I got EA involved to value house and signed an agreement ( not intending to tie myself ) But because I told lads going to have to go through estate agent, they have now got funny thinking I wasn't going to sell house to them, They went and changed locks on my house, i went to police to see if I was entitled to change locks they said I own house can do what I like, I could have pressed charges but didn't
My AIBU is I fear they may have done something to locks again and am perfectly in my right to report to police, but can't bring myself to, DP thinks I should and is quite adamant AIBU not to report,

Why does sister own parents house ‘by default’?

It isn't rude to try and find out what on earth is going on, the OP is completely exasperated and needs to focus on what happened so that they can get the advice they need.

I read it as OPs parents promised the house to her sons.

Instead, OPs sister inherited the entire house and OP inherited some money.

OPs sister is saying OP should give her inheritance to her kids so they can buy OPs house.

OPs sister gets to keep all of the house. OP ends up with nothing.

OP, do you want to give your sons your inheritance and/or sell your house to them? I'm not sure I would after their behaviour with changing the locks! Even without, you don't have to give anyone your inheritance.

Your sons changing the locks on the house they live in is not a police matter. It is a civil wrong. What civil action you take will depend on what your aim is here. Whether it’s to get your sons out of the house or to progress sale of the house to them.

There are ways to say that without being so bloody rude about it. How about...

OP, I'd like to help but not sure I'm following correctly. And then ask for clarification on the bits you don't understand. No snarky comments needed.

Police are unlikely to help in a civil matter which doesn't give rise to a breach of the peace.

Op your house is your house and separate issue to your sister's house. Change the locks and talk to your son and if he not reasonable he lives elsewhere. Move back in. Your sisters house (ex parents) you need to get legal advice on this. Sorry it sounds very confusing. You don't get a house by default, it's left legally to you in a will.

Poster makes as much sense as Rowley Birkin.

If you let your sons live in your house whilst you lived elsewhere and they changed the locks whilst you were aware, then you as the legal owner can get the locks changed.

Not sure why it's worth reporting to the police though.

Your parents house is owned by your sister if she has the legal paperwork whereby your parents gifted it to her. If it's just word of mouth then you may have a claim in the event of your parents deaths.

You need to stop word of mouth and all of you have proper legal paperwork.

Op stick this on the fridge and read it over and over

The answer to your question, should you report your son to the police for changing the locks?
No. They won't be able to do anything. Your son lives there, and presumably has done for several years? It would be a civil matter. You don't actually want the son to be kicked out of the house do you? Even then you'd need a court order I think. But police wouldn't really help.
As for the rest of them, they sound like they're trying to rip you off big time!
You need to speak to a solicitor about this inheritance.

If it's not in writing it does not exist. Word of mouth is irrelevant, unprovable unverifiable.

@Garlicker that was helpful !

OP you need to separate the inheritance issue from the your house issue. Your sons cannot lock you out of your own house. So you need to have words with them .. forget the police. Tell them in no uncertain terms that it is your house atm and therefore you will not be locked out of it.

Inheritance I guess it depends on how you feel about it all. I can't tell what you want to have happen

ok, @Nevertriedoysters I am going to invent some names.

Am I right?

you were expecting to inherit a share of your parents house, but you didn't. Your sister "Sally" inherited it all.

You have sons "John" "James" and "Jack"

Your sister Sally offered to share some of her inheritance with your sons.

Your son "John" lives in your house, and intends to keep it, and is assuming his gift from his Aunt Sally is enough to pay for it, and that you agree to sell it to him, so is acting as if he is already the owner and has changed the locks.

Meanwhile, no sale has happened, no ownership transfer has taken place, and you are not sure if it will, as you don't know how much money Sally will give him, or when.

Is this right?

So you have inherited nothing from your parents at all, they willed it all to Sally, is that right?

And it would be very unlikely that Sally has inherited so much that she is able to gift her nephews the cost of a house each, even if she chose to.

And if it is her money, then she might chose not to give them anything at all.

So your son John has got it into his head that he is owed a house and is trying to take it from you forcibly?

You need to evict him. It isn't a police matter, it is a civil matter, but he needs to get out of your house

Is this where you live? Are you married? Where is your partner? Is he John's father? Have I understood the story right or completely wrong? And where are other sons James and Jack in all this?

How does your sivling own the parental house 'by default'. If there is no will, the default is that it goes to the next of kin which would be squally between you and your sibs?
I believe tenants in some instances can change the locks if they have valid concerns about security for example

I’m so confused, but it sounds to me like you want to let your son steal your house and your partner is telling you not to allow it? I mean no offence OP but the fact that you were coming back from caring for your parents to tidy the house that your feral sons had trashed is bad enough, but letting them steal your house is bloody spineless. That’s not good parenting, you’re not doing them any favours in letting them treat you like shit. I’m with your partner on this.

You do that then.

Stop trying to police everyone else.

Not policing everyone, just pointing out your unnecessary rudeness to someone going through a tough time.