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To be furious ex has bought these Taylor Swift tickets

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stripycats · 12/06/2024 05:25

I've posted about my ex and money numerous times over the years. He pays no/v little child support due to low income but manages to find money for things he wants. I'm due to pay him £10k when ds2 is 21 (6 years) as the final tranche of his share of assets from when we split.

He bought a house outright with an inheritance 3 years ago and I believe has now released some equity (if that's the right term)from it. He has offered to put £10k into the kids' bank accounts if I cancel the CMS claim as he now seems to be earning a bit better and they have told him he has to pay £80 per week. I said I'd cancel it if he gave the kids £10k AND legally wrote off the £10k I'm due to give him. He didn't reply.

Then dc came home from contact saying dad has spent £800 on tickets for this coming weekend! This is for ex and one child as the other isn't fussed about TS. So not only is it a ridiculous amount of money to spending when you don't pay for the basics and never have, it's unfair on the dc as other child isn't getting anything.

He told me he'd borrowed money to help with kids uni costs but neither of them will even be at uni until next year and he is pissing this borrowed money away and sticking two fingers up at me and effectively getting me to subsidise his 'generosity.'

There's nothing I can do and I am happy for the dc getting to go, but AIBU in thinking he's a massive bellend now more than ever?

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Newyearoldhair · 12/06/2024 05:29

I remember your previous thread @stripycats , he is a twat of the highest order !

SilverBranchGoldenPears · 12/06/2024 05:31

Yes Mega Bellend seems an appropriate moniker.

3peassuit · 12/06/2024 08:32

I’d be raging too. What an arsehole. YANBU.

positivewings · 12/06/2024 11:11

Taylor swift is like Costa I just don't get the hype.

Justrelax · 12/06/2024 11:42

It sounds like you just need to stick to the terms and don't get involved with what he does with his money. You owe him 10K as agreed. He needs to continue to pay CM. He can choose to help kids with uni or not and put money in their accounts or not - nothing to do with you. If he wants to buy expensive concert tickets that's up to him. I know it's annoying but he's using money to keep you sucked in. Don't let him.

Fgshwga · 12/06/2024 11:52

@stripycats I remember your previous post - I commented lol

Fantastic! He's finally put his hand in his pocket to pay for something for the dc. Shame they're both not going but if one isn't fussed then I guess that's why ...

But he is also a massive bellend. He's doing these things to wind you up I'm sure of it. My ex played the same games.
Bet he bought them after you said about the 10K!

Hope your child also asks for some merch when they get there & bring some back for the other child not going ..... £70 for a hoodie each ....

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