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AIBU?

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Differences of opinion make me want to separate.

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TheKindGoldReader · 11/06/2024 22:32

Am I being irrational/ unreasonable if I have thoughts of wanting to separate from my husband when he disagrees with me about things like politics, equalities and fair representation. (Among other things but mostly that)
So I F38 have a husband M39 and child of 8. My husband and I are politically divided where I fall left of centre and he falls right of centre. We've always agreed on the main theme but our ideas about solutions differ. Its never really affected our household. But lately I feel like I don't really like him much.
For example; He cannot seem to understand what I mean when I talk about fair representation of women and minorities in things like trade unions and Police. He's adamant that trying to recruit from those groups is 'positive discrimination' and its wrong to force the issue on people that dont want it. He thinks if they wanted to participate they would just do it. Whereas I'm more inclined to see it as ensuring that those groups are educated in their right and responsibility to participate, stand up and be counted and its often from this encouragement, realisation and acceptance that they do so.
Anyway the difference of opinion makes me resent him. He's not a bad person and he is a good Dad, but I have days when I think I can't hack being in his company because he so righteous and cannot or will not see my point of view.
AIBU to consider separating?

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thanKyouaIMee · 11/06/2024 22:36

"because he so righteous and cannot or will not see my point of view"

Perhaps he does see your point of view and disagrees with it? As you do with his? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Separate for whatever reasons you want!

EC22 · 11/06/2024 22:38

If you don’t like him because your values don’t align that’s different than not being able to agree to disagree on some things.

He’s as entitled to his opinion as you are yours.

G3nnyL3ccy24 · 11/06/2024 22:38

The example you have given doesn't sound like a deal breaker AT ALL to me

Sounds like 2 fair arguments which broken down is
The roles in society should be represented/filled by a proportionate representation of race/sex etc

Yes that's fine but if 99 men of mixed heritage, age, background, serial orientation apply for a job and 1 woman applies. The 1 woman shouldn't automatically get the job. It should be the best qualified etc

Personally I wouldn't separate over this however it's your life do what you want

TheKindGoldReader · 11/06/2024 23:02

Thanks for input so far. I suppose what I really mean is that it used to be a difference of opinion and now it feels more like our values don't align. Thanks EC22 for helping me to label it better. It's frustrating.

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