My husband asked me to read a message from his sister on WhatsApp earlier and I saw I message from his best mate that made me look further. I’m fuming and upset but I’m not sure if it’s an over reaction.
Background: married 3 years, together 7, no kids, none intended . We’ve had our ups and downs but we’ve had such a long period of just getting on and being really close it’s been lovely. Early on there were some trust issues and we split up for a couple of months- pre marriage.
I don’t like his mate, he’s a misogynistic cu** who gives my OH awful advice such as ‘ you need to control your woman’. I’ve asked my husband many times not to discuss any issues we might have with him, ideally talk to me or talk to another friend who doesn’t hate women! Anyway, this friend has recently joined Tinder after ending a 5 yr relationship ( although he still spends the odd weekend with her), On the message he’s telling my OH that he went on a date, ( he’s also saying she was porky and not like her profile pics- he’s not exactly David Beckham)! Anyway my OH responded and said ‘ I would’ve shagged her anyway & does she have any mates’!!!!
Honestly I’m floored. I obviously can’t mention because I was snooping, but I’m sure he would say he was just being laddish but what do you think? It’s incredibly disrespectful and especially to this person that I despise.
Right now I’m thinking I’m going to leave this man and let’s him enjoy his life on Tinder!