to be peeved that my BF seems to have fallen out with us?

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Came back from holiday with BF and her fiance last weekend.

Her fiance is a travel agent and therefore we entrusted him with booking the holiday. The litany of problems started at the airport when I was booked on the plane with the wrong surname, they wouldn't let me on, I had to buy a new ticket at the gate (£many!). Then we arrived at the apartment and our room was too small for me, DP, DS and DSD so DP spent the week sleeping on the sofa. The private transfer arrived for the journey back to the airport and there was no car seat for 10 month old DS, we had a very nerve-wracking journey with him wedged between us.

We felt peeved (especially as he's a travel agent) but didn't make any fuss, after all we could have taken on the responsibility of all the booking ourselves but didn't.

Then, when we got to the airport, BF's fiance made a comment to my DP about how well it had all gone, how he would do the same again and how there had only been a few small problems. DP couldn't bite his tongue any more and said something like "if you consider having to spend the week on the sofa and driving a 10 month old child in unsafe conditions 'small' things".

Now it seems they have fallen out with us, they've been noticeably quiet and distant since we got back. We invited them over on Sunday, we got a text saying "maybe" then they never arrived.

I don't want to lose contact with my BF as we go back a long way. As a point of principle though, I don't think we have done anything wrong and have nothing to apologise for.

Sorry, that was a bit long-winded.

I think that maybe you should have said something, or even better, done something about it at the time.

I don't see how you having to pay £many is a 'small problem'. I would have been mighty pissed off! IMO your DP wasn't really rude. No advice though!

Difficult one, but as you say, you could of taken on the booking yourself, cans ee why you would be annoyed but if your friend really means alot to you then it would be a silly thing to fall out over IMHO

Ahh yes, forogt about the extra money you had to pay, what did your friends F say about it at the time?

they feel guilty but have manage to rearrange it into you being unreasonable and ungrateful.

Glam - we didn't say anything as we didn't want to let bad feeling get between us, we were happy to put it behind us until the point where he clearly didn't even realise there might have been a problem.

BBB he was convinced that he had booked it correctly but the airline's system had got it wrong. Not much I can argue really.

Did they not notice at the time that your dp was sleeping on the sofa? Did they not care?
I don't think you've got a lot to apologise for tbh.

If he's a travel agent doesn't he have a booking system on his computer where he enters the details of passengers?

Sounds lke they're avoiding you out of embarrassment.

Ok, just from my point of view. If I got to a place where there was no car seat, I would ask for one and pay for it, in fact I would check the details before I went. Men are notorious at forgetting things like this

the bed thing, maybe you should have said something at the time. If you decided it was best to say nothing then you should have kept it that way.

If you had said that to me at the last minute I would be miffed that you had not said anything sooner.

I dont think you should have to apologise, but maybe just have it out with your friend. Tell her you didnt want to cause a fuss. She is probably mortified.

YANBU, but I assume that they have no DC and will have no concept of the inconvenience (sofa) and stress (no carseat) that you have suffered. Not the sort of thing that you appreciate until you do have DC. But def NBU about having to buy a new ticket. What would happen to one of the F's customers if he did that to them? Bet they would have some comeback on him, - ie claim the money back, but because you are friends, you can't.

Depends how much you value this friendship, but perhaps it will be best to try and move on and remember in future to manage arrangements yourself?

One persons idea of a holiday can sometimes be different to another.

I wouldn't be too hard on the friend. He probably sees it as being ungrateful. Especially as the comments were left til the end.

Phone your friend and talk it through. Like you say its not worth falling out over.

Hope you work it out.

You're all talking a lot of sense - the circumstances of DP's final snap could have been better, but tempers are always a little frayed at 4am when you have two children to get out! They don't have children and do largely have a 'good enough' attitude to holidays. The lesson is definitely to plan things for ourselves in the future (although you would have thought you could trust a travel agent!).

I've just sent an open-armed email talking about how we all enjoyed our holiday. I feel like I'm going the extra mile but I do want to keep my friend. Let's see what happens.