Is staying in the car when outside the house being rude?

[Missziggy]

I'm probably being paranoid but my father in law has on more than one occasion just parked on the drive and not even popped in to say hello to me when him and my mother in law came to drop something off and then it happened again to pick my other half up. My other half just thinks i'm being overly sensitive, but i'm pretty sure if it was the other way around and I just stayed in the car outside their house and didn't bother to get out and say hello it would be viewed as being rude?
There's no issues as far as I'm aware, we get on great when we see each other so I guess that's why it upset me a bit today.
Am I being daft for being upset by this?

I think to me it depends how quick the visit is. If it’s a case of just dropping something off and your mil not entering the house then I wouldn’t see the big deal .
If your mil is coming in and staying more than 5 mins then it’s strange.

Dropping something off - No not rude at all.

An actual visit with a sit down chat and tea/coffee - Rude.

This.

The drop off would become a cuppa /snack /dc get excited they are there /you become fuming they have landed. Maybe they are actually doing you a favour?. My dd visits twice a week. Drive by for drop off /pick up now and again. Does feel we are a bit brushed off but we see her plenty and she has her own life too!

I'd be the FIL in the car, I'm not trying to be rude but I have social anxiety. Maybe similar? Even to a lesser extent, it could just be that they're so comfortable with you that they don't think you'll mind them staying when it's just a quick pick-up.

The drop off would become a cuppa /snack /dc get excited they are there /you become fuming they have landed. Maybe they are actually doing you a favour?. My dd visits twice a week. Drive by for drop off /pick up now and again. Does feel we are a bit brushed off but we see her plenty and she has her own life too!

I think a lot of people would be grateful if the in-laws dropped something and did just that. Nothing more frustrating than people deciding to come for a visit when you are busy and you didn't invite them.

I would give FIL the benefit of the doubt and take it as a kindness. Maybe they also have plans and he doesn't want his own wife to start talking for hours 😂

Quick drop off?

Why both get out the car (and presumably turn the engine off) for a quick 2 minute job?

It's not really the staying in the car that seems to be bothering you but the not saying hello. He could at least get out, say hello, then get back in the car. That's just good manors.

This.

If they are dropping something off / picking something up / calling for someone to go somewhere with them, it would be rather odd if 2 people got out

In fact, if it were any of my (adult) dc's friends, neither of them would - the dc would get a text

Seems OTT and unnecessary though.

Me personally, if my OH were dropping something off I’d stay well put in the car for 30 seconds. Not getting out just to say hello turn around and get back in the car, fuck that.

You're being daft yes.

He could at least get out, say hello, then get back in the car. That's just good manors.

No, it's not good manners, it's just daft.
No-one would do that.