Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To take my daughter out of this nursery?

29 replies

Miloandfreddy · 10/06/2024 19:13

My little girl has just turned two. She attends nursery two and a half days a week, is very happy there and the staff are great. The problem is that in the past 3 weeks she has been bitten 8 times by the same child. So I've had to sign 8 incident reports, once was three times in the one day. Each time it has left a visible mark. I was happy to let it go the first couple of times but now it seems I'm just dropping her off every day to get bit. I've spoke to the staff and they are always so apologetic. My husband wants to take her out, but I don't want her having to start again with new staff/friends etc..

OP posts:
OnehundredStars · 10/06/2024 23:25

I would take her out yes. Surely there is a better nursery for her.

positivevibesonlyx · 10/06/2024 23:50

What age group is the room your daughter is in? Will she be due to move rooms since turning two?

I'm sorry this has happened to her. Biting is never nice. It does happen so fast though, and unfortunately 1-1 isn't feasible in most nurseries, even a staff member being right there can't always stop it either.
I know biting is seen as extreme but it is an age and stage appropriate behaviour for a lot of toddlers, along with hitting and pushing.

I think if your daughter is still happy to go shows she's not really been fazed by what's happened to her. I'd talk to the nursery and see what's in place, they probably can't tell you too much, but I'd imagine a risk assessment and strategies are in place already.

Miloandfreddy · 11/06/2024 07:23

positivevibesonlyx · 10/06/2024 23:50

What age group is the room your daughter is in? Will she be due to move rooms since turning two?

I'm sorry this has happened to her. Biting is never nice. It does happen so fast though, and unfortunately 1-1 isn't feasible in most nurseries, even a staff member being right there can't always stop it either.
I know biting is seen as extreme but it is an age and stage appropriate behaviour for a lot of toddlers, along with hitting and pushing.

I think if your daughter is still happy to go shows she's not really been fazed by what's happened to her. I'd talk to the nursery and see what's in place, they probably can't tell you too much, but I'd imagine a risk assessment and strategies are in place already.

She's in the toddler room, moved from baby room about 3 months ago. There were incidents of biting in baby room too but nothing had happened for a good few months until recently. She's always happy to go, never complains and runs in when I take her, that's why I'm reluctant to remove her..

OP posts:
catsandkittensandcats · 11/06/2024 07:26

Biting on its own is not a sign of additional needs for children in this age range. I do think the nursery should be doing more but it does happen - we’ve been on both sides of you like and it is horrible for both parties.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread