OH has covid and he's not arsed if the rest of us get ill

[PercyThePigsMum]

My OH has a certain virus 🙄 I've put this here as I do feel it's an AIBU.

I can't help but be annoyed at how he doesn't take any care to try and prevent passing things on to the rest of us. Me and several small children.

When I've had a stomach bug, for example, I make sure to give the bathroom door handles a spray and wipe down after I've been in there etc, I don't use other peoples cups, I try not to breath in the children's faces, I up my hand washing.

He does none of that. He does absolutely nothing to try to prevent other people getting ill.

He's fine but then he always is, he has a terrific immune system. Me not so much.. and now I'm starting to feel quite ill. I have to cancel an important dentist appointment for tomorrow as I'll feel like shit.

He'll be back to work tomorrow whilst I will inevitably struggle for the next week or so and deal with the meltdowns that come when DS becomes ill.

Am I being unreasonable to feel this way?

COVID is highly contagious airborne disease.That's its thing. I can't believe you've all forgotten.

Wiping stuff down isn't the way to avoid it. Ventilation and distance are.

It can affect some people very lightly and some people very badly, so you might just be passing on a light cold or you might be passing on a wretched flu with long-term effects.

I have covid at the moment. The only reason I tested is because I have friends and family who are either simply vulnerable by reason of age or immune-compromised. I will keep out of their way. l will not go to my drawing class tomorrow (all retired people) nor another social activity on Wednesday. I live on my own so have no-one here to take into consideration.

I am going to a concert on Wednesday evening and, if I am well enough to go, I will arrange to sit at the back and wear a mask.

It is just common courtesy.

I have been fully vaccinated so am hoping that it will be mild for me. But for others it could still be serious with long-term effects - I would not like to be responsible for anyone else getting very ill. It's potential to cause serious illness has not gone away.

That's just not true though is it? No one likes a liar x

It’s airbourne so what is the point walking around with a dettol wipe?! It’s pointless really, you can catch viruses anywhere. He should listen to you if you prefer to keep him away out of respect, but I doubt it will do very much to prevent you being ill.

Massive squishes @PercyThePigsMum i don’t think you are being unreasonable. I have a crappy immune system and if I’m ill I tell folks at home and elsewhere. I minimise contact, watch what I’m touching, no kissing and hugging etc. I don’t love with my DP and offer him the option of us not seeing each other at weekends etc if I’m ill to save him being more likely to catch it.

chap had a sore throat nearly weeks ago but we put it down to workplace stress at the time. Last week I came down with a stinking cold, migraines etc all started with a sore throat. I’ll be ill for 2 weeks - he always has fleeting and mild symptoms.

last year we both had flu. I ended up with pneumonia and ill for nearly a month. He had a week of night and day tablets and fine with no time of work.

I think it’s common courtesy and illness etiquette especially if you have young folks or weakened immune systems in your circles.

This is true.

However, people should be washing their hands anyway, and he also shouldn't try and kiss OP if she's been clear she doesn't want him to. Covid or not.

This. Whatever contagious illness you have you should try just to give it to others. That's just common courtesy.