I love him to absolute bits and he’s never given me any reason to doubt him or not trust him.
However, I get really scared because I’ve had my fair share of heartache and horrible men. I hear stories all the time about how frequent cheating is, how all men ‘have needs’ etc.
My boyfriend and I are both homebodies, we’re both 27 we enjoy staying in, doing puzzles together, going on long walks, you know all the typical ‘boring’ stuff.
I recently went through a stage of realising I no longer enjoy partying, drinking, even going to pubs etc and I did struggle with being comfortable with this for a while. I always felt, and still sometimes do, feel as if I should be doing these things.
My boyfriend is similar and no longer enjoys going out, partying etc.
I just worry so much - I know he used to be a big partier, has had a few flings, drunk a lot etc. so I guess I just worry that I’m stopping him from doing all of that stuff. He said I’m absolutely not. Sometimes when I’m busy he’ll go for drinks etc with his friends and I worry that he’s doing that because he’s finally getting away from me. He said absolutely not, he’d rather be with me!
I guess I just worry that all boys secretly want to be doing that stuff. And also secretly had needs. I know he has slept with a fair few girls before me. He’s adamant he just wants me now but I still get scared. I’ve been really unwell the last few weeks so we haven’t been very active and he’s been really supportive BUT I worry that he must be doing something else about it because he must have needs etc etc.
So… how do I stop feeling like this?? He’s given me no reason or any suspicious actions etc but I just can’t help but have no faith in men!!!