Neighbourhood social butterfly

[Cherrybomb23]

My neighbour has suggested everyone takes turns to host drinks once per month. Iv explained that everyone keeps themselves to themselves, many work shifts and have families, neighbours dp have bbqs etc but not with each other, i told her I personally wouldn't bother I definitely wouldn't go

Sure, local social events are delightful, for people who like that sort of thing.

But once a month is a LOT - in our cul de sac we have a Christmas drinks 'do' and occasionally a BBQ in the front gardens - but monthly, ain't nobody got time for that!

I wouldn't want that at all. But I am very antisocial.

Once a month is a lot. Also I think these types of events should be in communal spaces and there isn't a 'host'

Bless her is she maybe lonely? I feel bad for her but I'd definitely not be hosting drinks once a month for my neighbours or going to any of their's for drinks. I'm very happy to be on "cheerful wave in the street" terms with mine and I'd like to keep it that way.

I suppose she can have a go, there may be some others interested in that sort of community cameraderie, but I think she'll be hard pressed to get people to host in their homes. Maybe a monthly group pub lunch or something would be more appealing.

Yes let her get on with it. There will be some that do and some that don't

That's how it is in our street. A core couple organise & attend. A couple of other Bob in and out. Others don't engage at all

If you know your neighbours well and think they might not like it (and may even take a dim view of her for suggesting it) and want to save her some disappointment maybe you could suggest she organises a quarterly event as a compromise.

Then if she wanted it to be in a house she could host at hers.

But quarterly lends itself to outside get togethers. Christmas carols, summer barbecues, maybe a spring clean declutter swap, a hallowe’en barbecue or conker tournament 🤔