To ask school to stop sending me these texts?

[SquiglePig]

I have 3 kids in same high-school.

They've started to send texts to parents everytime a child is late to a lesson, basically saying 'your child is late for lesson, please don't allow this to happen again etc'

My kids are never late to school in the mornings, ever.

It's my responsibility to get them into school on time, which I do.

I've had the discussion with them about getting to lessons on time but what can I actually do?

I feel like once they're on school grounds I don't really have physical control over how long it takes them to get to lessons even though I keep telling them.

Also it's not a text to my phone it's a text via the school messaging system which means I have to log in to see it.

I'm at work and I don't know if it's something important or not and have to check and I can get in trouble for being on my phone too much.

Please don't think this is me saying I have no responsibility over my children's behaviour in school, of course I do but I feel that I do not need to recieve a text every time one of them is late to arrive to a lesson when I've got them into school on time.

In my day there were teachers in the hall to usher kids to their lessons?

This. Do you know how disruptive it is to a lesson when children are late? The knock on effect it has on behaviour of other students? The learning time they miss?
Schools who text like this are rightly making the behaviour of some children their parents problem. It's already a problem for the teachers and other students. You need to deal with it at home.

In my day there were teachers in the hall to usher kids to their lessons?

When I was at school most parents back up school sanctions at home. If you were in trouble at school then you were also going to be in trouble at home.

When I was at school there wasn't quite the shortage of secondary school teachers, and school resources/funding, as there seems to be now.

Thank you @Jellycatspyjamas

I doubt it is the same people sending the texts as who are teaching tbh.

And quite likely that it's an automated system, so no one is actually sending them.

Do you believe punctuality to be pointless in all areas of life? Or just when it's teenagers who can't get to lessons in time distrusting the learning of other children and the work of their teacher?

But how would say, a science teacher, know your child has been late to maths, geography or history?

@Sahara123 yes, I understand that. If it's classed as truancy it will add up though. Just say they didn't let patents know until the kid was missing hours a week, then bombarded them with fines etc. that would be worse.

It's so depressing that so many shy (non commenting) people have voted yanbu. Any wonder behaviour is a shit show and getting worse every year.

Tell your kids to stop hanging around and to go in. The problem obviously lies with your children. Teachers aren't responsible for making them come into school.

Sounds like your kid is being an utter pain in the arse and here you are arguing the toss

I can’t believe that people think it is unreasonable of a school to ask a parent to make sure their kid does as they’re told at school

Maybe, if you don’t like the regime of that school, you could try out a different one

I thought teachers were in loco parentis when kids were in school. and therefore responsible for discipline etc.

I think in Loco is no longer valid.

I don’t know.. but you would expect the support of the parents would you and if my child was missing lessons every day several times?

I’d be going into school to have a meeting and telling my kid to sort themselves out

Turn the app push notifications off.

If its important they will call.

Schools are there to TEACH your children - not parent them. That’s your job. YABVU

Yep. If attendance dips to under a certain percentage then of course parents will be fined or in the worst case, given a custodial sentence. It's not down to the individual school but the local authority. Persistent lateness counts towards unauthorised absences. Did you not know this?
I'm saying this as a parent. Not in any way related to the above professions. I thought everyone knew this.

It’s automated. when the teacher takes the register, the texts get sent out.

Parents SHOULD know their child is disrupting not only their own learning, but of their peers too. It’s not acceptable.
The behaviour of school children is getting worse , hence why teachers are leaving the profession , and your children are being taught by cover supervisors instead.

OP if you don’t want the text, make sure your kids turn up to lesson on time ,like the rest of the students, instead of making excuses for them .

Parent.

Sanction the em at home and warn them about what will happen if you get more messages.

We do usher them but also have lessons to get to and some of them pretend we don’t exist.

Also, I'm not sure if someone has pointed this out... But if your child is late, not only is the lesson disrupted while the teacher catches them up and deals with the disruption of them coming in late, but it's a safeguarding issue. In many/most schools when we do the register and we see little Kaiden was in his earlier classes but isn't in this one, we have to email SLT/on-call to inform them so they can look for him. If they're on time, not only is it the bare minimum behaviour expectation, but we know they're safe. They're supervised.

How on earth can any parent think their child consistently being late is acceptable?!

If it were mine I’d have a word with school about taking my kids in and then start walking them directly to their classrooms until they were able to do it themselves. I guarantee you’ll only have to do it once, twice at a push.

Teachers dont have time to go to the lav , never mind 'usher' your sodding kids to class

I see where your coming from but once they are in school what can the parent do then when the child knows there is no consequences in school.

Tell your children to stop being late to their lessons and you will stop receiving the texts. You are aiming your anger at the wrong source. If they continue to do it then punish them.

Op can't do that she needs an enhanced police check.

Are you laying down any consequences at home?