Are kisses after a message always fine?

[Ciderlout]

Are they fine to use regardless or are there situations they shouldn’t be used as they may cause issues.

A friend of mine got in touch with an ex from 17 years ago (say he’s called Gav) about his cat (wandering in to her garden getting lost so she put it on FB to see if anyone might know who the cat belonged to…) He private messaged her apologies for his cat hopes she’ll well etc and 2 kisses at the end.

My friend was like I’m pleased your cat is ok and you’re doing well. No kisses as she didn’t want there to be any possible misunderstanding. He replied with an an answer and another kiss and she replied thank you etc with no kiss.

Friend has a DH she adores and would never cheat. Gav has messed about several times - he tried to seduce my friend whist with two different long term GF. He’s been with this one for about 18 years and on the grape vine he’s been messing about though they now have two kids.

So are these kisses after the message normal or should friend run a mile if she sees him? I say run!

Never have a problem with putting an X on the end. I wouldn’t read to much into it. I do it automatically sometimes and I certainly don’t mean to kiss anyone 😂

Ive had kisses from people im buying from / selling to on Facebook! So no, i wouldnt ready anything into unless there is anything else 'untoward' in the wording, which it doesnt sound like there is.

...at this point anyway! As he has form id be clear to not encourage anything. But the kisses alone i dont think are a problem.

I think lots of people just do it automatically & don't think anything of it. I've even seen some posters on here use them.

I never use them first and never in a professional context!
Or with some friends, especially male friends. My family never ever uses them

Depends. If it's from me, it means we're good friends. But other people put them on everything. I don't do that, because I'd probably end up sending it like that to my boss or someone where it would be inappropriate, but as plenty of past threads here have shown, people use them at work too.

In summary - you need to know his normal style to know if there's special meaning from him or he uses them like extra punctuation.

It seems to be a British thing. I know not all British people etc, but they don’t do this in North America with anyone I have been in touch with.

Didn’t it start as a way of saying the message has ended back in the very old days when long texts might be sent over 3 messages instead of one?

I have stopped using them, I have to sent professional texts and I cannot risk xx at the end of a text then.

They're usually fine.
But if it's from some dick head that's a dickhead, block the dick head. Xx

I wouldn't put a kiss on a message to someone who I wouldn't kiss in person. TBH I see random kisses as a warning that the person I'm dealing with is a bit clueless.

Normally I don’t read into kisses.

Coming from an ex though, she is wise not to have sent any in her message, so that her intentions are totally clear.
He may mean nothing, but why take the chance for a misunderstanding?

She doesn’t need to be running away from him if she sees him though, that is OTT.

I do quite a bit. Lots of colleagues including the manager use them in personal messages or group WhatsApp.
I am careful if I'm sending a message to a parent as in that case it would be unprofessional.
Pretty much anyone else gets an x at the end.
Don't think it's that weird but I guess she can either ask him not to or if she's not bothered about speaking to him block/ignore

It's fine.

Totally depends but obviously not on all messages. I have an unknown handyman coming this morning, I didn’t send any xx when discussing the price.

DS takes it to another level and quite frequently ends his messages to me and the family with ‘kind regards’ 😂

Lots of people seem to treat an "x" as a standard way to finish a text. Personally I think it puerile and don't send kisses to anyone but my children but an awful lot of people send kisses to me.

I usually just use kisses with DH, DS1, mum etc, but DS2's (female) teacher always puts kisses at the end of her messages on Class Dojo, so I've found myself sending her kisses back in case not doing it seems standoffish to her!🤣

I always send kisses after my messages…but only to female friends. I wouldn’t do so to a man as I don’t want them or their partner to think anything of it, especially if he’s an ex!