To want a holiday that my DP doesn't.

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In context- I'm on mat leave and my partner is self employed. He can't really afford time off work this time of year and has lots of work these summer months but I have some savings and really want a holiday!! Am I being unreasonable to go away with my 4 month old on my own for 4-5 nights abroad?

Of course not.
Go and have a lovely break with your baby.

Ooh thanks @Nouvellenovel that's all the encouragement I needed haha
Do you have any experience of bottle feeding abroad? I'm combi feeding but will need to take formula for the most part

Do it and enjoy!

Of course you go! You're an adult who can make decisions for themselves. Where are you going to go??!!

Whilst I don't disagree that you should go, as you have the time and he doesn't, it's still a joint decision in the finance side, if it won't have an impact there, then I'd say yes, and have fun. If you having the holiday is an issue financially, then I'd say no, same as if he decided to go away for a few days

I think you're fine to take yourself on holiday. I think that taking your joint baby away requires negotiation. Most parents would be understandably upset to be separated from such a young baby for something non-essential, and if that's how your dp feels I don't think you should necessarily overrule him.

100% go! It will be lovely to go away with your baby. 4-5 nights is the perfect mum & baby getaway! Enjoy x

I would t think twice, apart from thinking carefully about my destination, and how much I would enjoy it with a baby. Our families were all abroad, so I was flying shorthaul solo with DS from the moment he was able to have his first passport, but some people find travelling alone with a small baby stressful.

Depends how tight money is.

It should be "family money". Not yours or his.

So do you have enough to afford to go away? If yes then why not go and have a great time.

If however it will leave you both a bit tight for bills or rack up credit card debt you just don't need in the current climate then I wouldn't be spending on unnecessary holidays.

I think it depends on how comfortable your partner is with being away from their young child for however many days you'll be away. You make decisions for yourself, but the baby is theirs too, so I do think they should get a say.

If your partner is happy for you to take baby away then I definitely don't think it's unreasonable to go away without your partner. If it were me, I do think I would feel bad that my partner was missing out and the money could have been used for something for the whole family, but that's just how I feel personally not how I think you should feel.

If you're both fine with it, no reason not to! My main concern would be that your baby may end up a bit unsettled and your lovely holiday might be more like 5 days of exhaustion with a cranky baby and no support.

You really need to provide more information - is your partner happy for you to go on a holiday?

Is this a 'AIBU as I want to go away whilst my partner is busy working but he doesn't want me to' or 'AIBU in going away with my 4 month old leaving my partner at home, even though he is happy for me to do so'

Personally this is something you both need to agree on. Going away has a financial impact and also your partner might feel unhappy being away from his young DC at this stage. Definitely ignore the advice of 'oh yeah just go on ahead'...