To wonder how people cope financially with divorce?

[Heps9]

On mumsnets it seems people get divorced without it having a massive consequence on their finances: separated, moved to my own place, divorced, met someone else etc.
How do people manage to maintain two homes when it’s a struggle to maintain one. I never really understood. We go ok financially but could never make our joint salaries run two houses.

I inherited money and got a better job. Without both of these things happening I wouldn't have been able to buy my exh out. I'm fortunate that I didn't have to sell the house. I have had to cut my cloth because my exh doesn't pay maintenance at the moment but I'm not destitute.

Solicitors are expensive but my costs were minimal because my exh didn't get one and we pretty much worked it out between ourselves. It's much cheaper to get divorced when you agree on things and are able to settle without endless solicitor battles or going through court

What you see isn't always the true picture tbh. I expect to strangers I look like I'm doing better than I am.

Plus I'm no longer funding my ex's irresponsible spending habits. So there's that...

We have a welfare state so if you literally can’t afford to live then UC kicks in. I’m not saying it’s perfect but if you are single with kids (especially if you are renting) it tends to do an ok job of covering the basics.

I got divorced 20 years ago and even then it cost a fortune on solicitors bills and me and exh were both poorer after the divorce because basically 2 can live more cheaply then 2 singles living apart. It was worth it though to no longer have to live with him.

It’s unrealistic to expect you would be better off but most people if on a low income then there’s universal credit and if not then you usually have a bit of cloth can cut, plus child maintenance etc, don’t forget is much cheaper per household with just one adult

We were older so more established in jobs and my house was almost paid off. I then met a man in similar circumstances so we are mortgage free owning 50/50. Exh has a large mortgage but can afford it