AIBU to not believe how my friends daughter hurt herself

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So me and one of my fairly good friends have 2 children each and they are both similar ages. Her youngest is 6.5 months old. I see her regularly, probably 2 times a week minimum. Our husbands are also good friends and talk regularly

Last week she text me saying her DD dislocated both her elbow and shoulder from "rolling on her playmat"". I know for a fact her child doesn't roll and hasn't yet but she's always saying her children are doing things when they haven't. For example, my 10 month old starting walking recently and she told someone her daughter also started walking...

I don't believe her daughter dislocated 2 joints by rolling, without sounding mean, she's such a lazy baby, I do mean that in a nice way. She's so chilled, always happy and just happy to be laying down or sitting in a bouncer chair. I know the mum struggles which is why I make such an effort to spend time with her but I just think something is off about how the injury happened.

AIBU?

Also to add, she did take DD to hospital, will she face any inquiry or repercussions so I can be there for her if so

The child could have easily had a roll from a bouncer etc. My sister managed to dislocate her elbow twice on a playmat at that age. Only for there were four of us that witnessed it i wouldn’t have believed it either.

She has no lasting issues.

You're not really her friend are you? Posting online implying that your friend hurt her baby, or has somehow been negligent.

You don't sound like much of a friend to be honest. Why would you think she's lying about it? There are certain conditions that make dislocation more likely and they may well do further tests to determine why this happened. This was probably very upsetting and worrying for your friend so perhaps you should offer support instead of judgement.

So you can "be there for her"

Gosh, when children are neglected and abused and end up killed at the hands of their parents, people are SO quick to judge and blame the people that knew or suspected something was wrong and didn't act. Yet here we have an OP who has a feeling something is wrong and is getting told she's just spiteful and looking for gossip. OP, there's obviously a reason you feel this way because if my friend told me her baby hurt themselves, I'd believe them. The fact you don't believe them might just mean you're being over vigilant but it might also mean you have sensed something off. If baby has been to hospital, they may get some SS follow up. For now I'd keep a close eye but don't hesitate to report if you have any concerns at all. Vulnerable kids rely on people 'poking their nose in' etc.

My shoulder had been put back three times by the time I was three. Since then I can think of five occasions where it dislocated for things like picking up a bag, holding a handrail on a bus, being asleep, doing a physio exercise in front of the physio treating me for the previous dislocation and my personal favourite, by sitting on the sofa (bastarding thing just fell out as I sat there).

I've got EDS.

No one is telling OP to mind her own business, people are just pointing out she's coming across as disingenuous/ gossipy and also that her friend's explanation isn't implausible at all. If she'd come on here and said she has a bad feeling about her friend's story of what happened to her DD and wondering what she should do, I for one would have replied very differently.