To take this job?

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Hi, looking for some external thoughts before I agree to anything or think about this much more.
Early this year an acquaintance's daughter passed away, she was 39, I met her family as I am a Danish immigrant as are they.
Last week the acquaintance approached me and asked If I would be interested in taking on a nanny role for her 3 year old granddaughter, I said potentially and took the details of the father.
For context I was a live-in nanny for many years, then a primary teacher and for the last few years I haven't been working but have been considering picking up some work as I still feel young! I am 52.
This year both my children (twins) go off to uni, my husband still works long hours, usually not home until 7.

The deal would be Monday-Friday 7-9 (breakfast, school run), Monday- Thursday 3-7 (School run, dinner, hobbies), Saturday 8-2 (dad has to work Saturday's) but the child would be at performing arts club from 9-12, in this time he would want me to sort toys, organise bedroom etc. They have a housekeeper who deals with laundry and cleaning etc.
Then 1 week before Christmas, 1 week at February half term, 1 week in Easter Holidays and 2 weeks in summer holidays 7-7 (though he has said we could look a clubs for the full or half days). The remaining school holidays off (so 6 weeks summer, 2 weeks Christmas, 2 weeks April and 1 week in May). Also covering any days the child is off school sick (he has said we could agree on additional pay for these days).
He said benefits would be health insurance, paying into a pension and car (business use only).

The main requirements would be preparing breakfast and doing the school run, helping with homework, preparing dinner, taking to clubs, keeping toys and child's room organised, he has said potentially also making sure she has uniform and clothes in the correct size, sorting haircuts, dentist etc. Also making sure I speak to the child in Danish only as they were doing One Parent One Language before and want this to continue.

The pay would be £35k a year, but really I don't know what the going rate is for Nannying anymore or what the normal expectations/benefits are.

So could anyone more knowledgeable tell me if this is a good deal/normal expectations? How much should the day rat be for illness?

AIBU to be considering this job when I could do something much more parttime instead?

I don't know what the going rate is, sounds good except the Saturdays. If your DH works long hours, presumably you'd want to see him on the weekend. You'd also potentially want to take leave at different times to what is offered.

“I haven't been working but have been considering picking up some work as I still feel young! I am 52.”

I’m sorry, but this made me laugh - the first sentence made me think you were going to say you were about 72 (post retirement age) not 52 🤣

If you want to know if that salary is market rate and how much to charge for extra days, have a look at nanny job adverts. I don’t see how business use only car is a benefit though, so that wouldn’t entice me at all! Thats just to deliver the job, you don’t get anything from it.

No-one can say whether it’s worth you doing this instead of more part this - how can we know what money you need vs how much free time you need to have? But it sounds to me like your husband’s salary supports you and you’re just bored so money isn’t the driving factor. In which case, I would avoid the restriction. If I liked children (as in: other people’s children!) I might offer to be the after school care (in Danish) only.

What will you do between 9am and 3pm Monday to Thursday? what happens if you can’t be around on a day that she is ill?

This family needs stability and consistency - can you offer that? How many weeks holiday will you get a year? Can you take a weekend off every now and then?

sounds like they are looking for a pseudo mother figure. Are you ok with that?

The leave could be a little annoying, but the other option is going back into teaching which would be basically the exact same and a lot more stressful.

DH likes to golf on a Saturday, we don't really spend Saturday together, more so Sunday so it would make minimal difference.

Well whatever I want to I guess - Gym, lunch with friends, have a nap!

I do worry somethings (sorting clothes and uniform, hair cuts etc.) is very motherly, but then I guess at the end of the day it isn't a massive deal.

It sounds much better than being a teacher, as long as you get in with the family and the child.

£35k for a 36 hr week sounds pretty reasonable.
As you are not working at all now, why not give it a go.

If you don't mind losing the Saturdays, sounds a lot less stressful than teaching a group of 30.
Sort of restrictive, in that it's an early start and latish finish, but if the 9-3 is convenient to fit in your interests, why not?

35k for 32 hours sounds good to me.

Would they pay petrol or would you drive one of their cars?

Would you pay insurance?

Do you eat with them?

If you want a weekend away or have a wedding etc can you book additional time off or are you restricted to the school holidays only?

Do you get sick pay?

What's your commute like? Having to get to / from the place twice a day could be time consuming (or not!). Also would weekly shopping be down to you? Any an expectations of babysitting?