BALLS!

[NeilTayloriscatwit]

Yes I know I'm being unreasonable, but I've had basketball, football and everything in-between from the neighbours kids plus balls in my garden, I can't move to the middle of nowhere before anyone starts that,I just want a bit of peace, FUCK OFF With the balls, bang bang bang its like chinese torture, i honestly pray for it to piss down, take your kids to the park to play fucking football and basketball 😬

Just chuck it back over.... it might be annoying. But there are worse neighbours out there...

Totally agree. That aggressive booting the ball against a fence, or the constant bouncing absolutely does my head in. I don't know how the parents are putting up with it either.

It's just lazy parenting.
So long as they are getting a bit of peace they don't give a shit

Don’t chuck them back over, don’t answer the door to them, chase them out of your garden if they try to get them back and then they’ll learn not to play with them by your house any more

No that would be letting the kids sit inside on the Xbox all day. They’re getting fresh air and their kids. We used to play in the garden back in my day as well, nothing to do with parents

I couldn't get excited about this. It's kids playing outside and getting exercise, it's part of living alongside other people and a bit of tolerance goes a long way. When we moved here there was a constant stream of balls from next door, who had boys a few years older than ours. The parents were embarrassed and apologetic about it until we sent round a new football with a ribbon on it one Christmas with a card saying we really didn't mind chucking balls back. Their kids grew up and stopped playing in the garden, and ours hit ballsports age and the balls went in the other direction for a few years until ours grew out of it too. Hopefully there will be grandchildren one day and we'll be swapping balls again

@DonnaBanana as did I.
What we didn't do was disturb the neighbours.
We didn't let balls constantly go over.
It's lazy arse parenting!

Sounds more like bad aim. How is a parent meant to stop a ball going over a fence. It’s not like kids deliberately want to lose their balls.

YABU. It is only a generation or less ago when children playing out was the norm.

Now parents can't win, in all the time, not healthy generation of obese young people. They play out in their garden, won't someone think of the peace.

Parents don't have extra hours to spend supervising in the park. They probably are doing the usual housework, cooking, laundry or the usual challenge of getting everything ready for the week ahead of you know a full time job. Give them a break.

No skin the game my pair never liked ball games.

It’s funny because the people writing comments like this are the same people complaining about young people nowadays not being responsible, resilient or independent enough!

On the one hand you expect parents to keep them 100% in hand and out of society’s way until they turn 18 when you expect them to be a magically fully functional member of adult society.

I kicked balls over fences.
My 65yo mother kicked balls over fences.

It’s a regular part of childhood not a sign of lazy or poor parenting. The only difference in the last few years is the massive rise in people working from home/being in their houses all the damn time.

I actually moved house because the next door neighbours son played football from about 4pm.until.9pm every school day in the summer and all day at the weekend. This was accompanied by screaming so loud I couldn't believe he didn't lose his voice.

A knife would enter that ball. They destroy plants. If your garden isn’t big enough then you shouldn’t be launching balls over your neighbours garden, no matter how careful you are, the balls will still go over.

DD has balls, wasn’t interested previously but they’re just a pain in the ass!

I'm okay with children playing with balls in gardens to a certain extent.

My ds used to love playing with all sorts of balls, tennis, football, basketball etc...

We just had some ground rules

1.No longer than half an hour at a time (could obviously stay in the garden for longer, just not constant bouncing for any longer than that)

2.No kicking/throwing it deliberately against any walls/fences (we got him a rebounder net which he loved)

3.It's okay for the ball to go over occasionally, but if it's going over constantly (mainly because he was getting silly & hyper) then the ball went away for the rest of that day.

That felt like a fair balance, he was getting exercise & fresh air without being disrespectful to the neighbours.

@Thehonestbadger I managed to have to exceptionally independent children,who are not reliant on tech or who annoyed the shit out of the neighbours.
I just didn't let them kick balls over while not helicopter parenting at the same time.
It is possible

I don't love it, obviously, but I don't mind it until they're teens and need to take the balls across the road to the HUGE playing fields.

once they are big/talented/strong enough to belt a ball, the park is the place, not my fence!

'kids' over the back have a basketball hoop & concrete slab. It gets a bit much when they're at it all day, but the park doesn't have one, so 🤷🏻‍♀️. But I had hoped one day they'd move out of home...no signs of it far

Thanks for responding,ive wrote this when I was at my wits end, it hasn't got any better so I've lost some balls unfortunately 😭 don't know where they've gone seems they come over less frequently 🤷

We have two parks within five minutes walk. What do we get??? Footballs non stop outside the house. Next door neighbour fences being broken. Parents aren't bothered 🙄🙄 if it comes in my garden I keep the bloody things

I know there's worse things but when it's from all sides , the noise plus the balls coming over it pisses me off. Anyway I've taken to throwing the balls in different directions so find out where they've gone lol. 😂

Definitely YANBU, the repeated thuds are a slow torture. Any that come in your garden just stick a knife in.

I used to confiscate them. They weren't even coming from NDN but the people the other side of them. The kids thought it was funny.

They eventually ran out of balls, and one day there was a knock on the door. It was two shame-faced kids and their belligerent grandmother. They asked for their balls back. Wait there, I said, and went out to the shed and got them. A whole extra-large black sack full of the things. I handed it over to the grandma and she said "Er... oh. I didn't realise there were so many." I told her that the kids did it on purpose for a lark, and she turned her belligerence onto her grandchildren. She had a right go at them and made them apologise. I said I was fed up with it, and if any more came over, they wouldn't be getting them back.

One or two did. I have a very sharp pointy knife, ideal for making a tiny and undetectable hole in a football.

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