room bedsheets smelly ,is it unreasonable to ask for change

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My husband was having fever since three days and so today finally he was well withy mild temperature ..The room was stinking with sweat and I just said to him that please let me change the sheets and everything .He said he really feels little weak today so he wants to rest .I said it will just take me 1 min to change evverthing ..he said NO ..I was disgusted ...he is lying down there ,now watching movie.. Am I being unreasonable ?

Seriously? If he’s unwell, can you not do it?

Definitely not being unreasonable OP.

@Cherrysoup I asked him to get up so that I can do it .

Can you not read?
I said it will just take me 1 min to change everything

OP - can you run him a bath and while he's in it, change the sheets? Otherwise try again tomorrow.

do what they do in hospital park him in the chair for a minute strip and change the bed then pop him back in

he just has mild fever , not bed ridden that he needs to be in a chair , I was just clueless how can someone lie the whole day in smelly room and still be ok ..Are men in general l.ike this or I am overthinking ?

Just wait till he goes to the toilet and change the bed

Tell him it's not a discussion. He needs to get out of bed and let you change the sheets. Are you sleeping in the same bed?

@PonyPatter44 Not now since he is unwell but I want to ...

Pop him on the edge of the bed and change the sheet side by side as you pop him on the other side of the bed

Unless I was planning on sleeping in the same bed I’d leave him be. When he feels better clean sheets is a treat !
Open a window and try again tomorrow

It doesn't sound like he's so ill he needs to be 'popped' anywhere. OP you are not BU at all. Just tell him 'out you get for a minute please, while I change the bed' and then start doing it. Hell soon move! Disclaimer: if he was too ill to move then of course I would wait.

Leave him to watch the movie and open a window, what harm is he doing? This wouldn't bother me at all.

If your in it all day you probably won’t realise it smells

Leave him to wallow in his own filth if he wants. Sleep elsewhere though.

If you can't then the sheets need changed.

Perhaps he's wanting to wait until he's strong enough to shower and that's fair enough.

Air the room.

I have to do this with my cat 😂🤣😂

He's still not well and still lying in the bed. They'd get sweaty again if he's just lying in the bed all day resting.
Wait till tomorrow and he feels better still then change them

Can you coax him out of bed with a snack?

I always like clean sheets when I’m ill and change the pillow cases daily because I don’t want to be surrounded by the germs that made me ill in the first place. Maybe you can appeal to his inner hypochondriac?

Doesn't he go to the restroom?

I would ask him to get up and fix the bed. Yes he sick but not dying.

‘Pop’ him on the edge of the bed or in a chair?? Please, this is a grown man with a slight temperature.

Do people really pander to their partners so much because they have a mild illness?

I’d be telling the smelly so and so to get himself up and in the shower whilst I changed the sheets so that I could return to my own bed without lying in his sweat stains all night!

I suppose it depends what he's normally like. My DH is almost never ill, and I've never known him to spend a day in bed. So if he spent three days in bed and said he didn't feel up to getting up, I'd be sympathetic and wouldn't insist. He'd have to be really ill for that to happen.

If I was married to someone who had a tendency to take to his bed at the slightest sniffle, I'd be less sympathetic.

Ask him to give you a yell when he next goes to the loo. Presumably he'll do that some time between now and bedtime. Make him a large cup of tea to speed up the process.

Pop a tumble drier sheet between the sheet and his pyjamas