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Feeling hurt and pissed off at friends

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catsandcargopants · 08/06/2024 08:57

I was out yesterday with one of my closest friends and her husband, lets call them Angela and Jimmy. A few years ago I fell and fractured my back in two places. I have since been diagnosed with osteopenia. The fractures were towards the bottom of my spine. This happened during covid and I spoke to doctors over the phone probably about 10 times. It was only after about 3 months after I fell that I got sent for an x-ray by which time the fractures had healed. I worked from my bed the whole time. Anyway I take strong painkillers, not because I want to but because I am in a lot of pain if I didn't I certainly wouldn't be able to work. The doctor thinks I may have nerve damage also. I took the tablets yesterday and Jimmy asked what I was taking. I told him and he told me to stop them and that I was basically a junkie and addicted. Angela agreed with him. I asked Jimmy what I should do then and he said just suck it up. I don't crave these drugs and take less than I am allowed to. I only remember to take them when I am in pain. I'm feeling pretty hurt just now and to make it worse my DH never said a word to back me up, although he did seem pretty drunk at this point. WWYD?

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WiddlinDiddlin · 08/06/2024 15:28

Jimmy and Angela can fuck right off!

Chronic pain sucks. Having to take pain meds to function, also sucks.

I'd have asked Jimmy where he got his medical degree, and then told him to fuck off.

I have several Dr friends... absolutely NONE of them would comment on my treatment in that manner, in fact they would only comment if they were seriously worried an error had been made and it would be something like 'can you check that X is the right dose/med, I have xyz concern'... not 'you're a junkie and an addict, you should stop X'...

What you take is between you and your specialist/consultant/GP, particularly between you and the person who prescribed it. No one else.

AyrshireTryer · 08/06/2024 15:31

He's watched Dopesick and now he thinks he is a doctor.

Steakandwine · 08/06/2024 16:38

Ask this friend what meds you should take when in his presence as he's a pain in the arse.
You're in no way a junkie that's a ridiculous comment to make, he better hope he never has to take meds for pain then.

Noopneep · 08/06/2024 16:43

As a rule due to experiences like yours, I don't discuss my health condition with anyone that doesn't have one.

One helpful friend told me "just learn to deal with the pain". They were happy with this advice until they suffered chronic back issues.

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 08/06/2024 16:46

To answer WWYD, nothing really, what can you do? Telling them they are wrong probably won't make a difference as it was so arrogant of them to suggest this in the first place. Maybe be extra cautious around them in future, maybe decline invitations to hang out with them.

I think you definitely need to talk to your Dh and see why he didn't stand up to yoy. maybe he was drunk and tuned out, maybe he knows Jimmy can be an asshole about this stuff and didn't want to have a massive row and ruin everyone's night. Maybe he agrees with them on some level and didn't want to say it to you. I think its important that you know how he feels and likewise that he knows why you may not be asking Jimmy over for dinner any time soon.

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