To think I need to end this, he's messing me about

[Overpluckedmyeyebrows]

Someone I've been 'seeing' if you can even call it that.
In the beginning he was good at texting, now doesn't reply to lots of them or takes over a day.

It's not that I mind, it's just that he didn't used to. I did ask him about it and he said 'oh I'm just rubbish at texting' but like I say he didn't used to.

Not saying at all that someone has to text constantly and reply immediately, not in the slightest. But when they ignore almost 50% of your texts, it's hard to feel special.

So I stop texting for a bit then he's friendly/flirty again.

We've been out a few times for drinks and to a film etc. I was going on a day trip to a city about an hour and a half from where we live. I casually asked him if he wanted to come and he looked at me like I had two heads or something. Made me feel embarrassed tbh.

I feel like it's mainly me initiating tbh. He's never said anything sweet or really bought me much other than a drink.
It's only been around 6 weeks, but it's just not making me feel special at all, quite the opposite. He's 31, you'd think he'd be a little more mature but maybe not.
He said 'i'll try and get better and texting you back ' , wow I can see where I am on the priority list.

Thank you!

Ffs, it shouldn’t be like this. Is he even vaguely bothered? It’s not meant to be hard work 6 weeks in. Clearly he doesn’t care enough.

Oh ffs. Someone always has to come out with something like this. It is not normal in the early days of dating someone that you like to take a day to respond to a simple text. It just isn't.

You shouldn’t have to second guess how someone feels about you.

If they like you they’ll show it with respect, attention and affection.

You shouldn’t have to be working so hard for something as basic as text communication.

He’s showing you who he is and how he thinks you deserve to be treated. Listen to him and move on.

From a different perspective I would hate all the texting between dates, I'd feel like someome was really insecure and needy if they kept doing this.

I understand that, I don't constantly text at all and I don't reply immediately to anything. I mean it's taken him 30 hours to reply to one sentence kinda thing.

In your world maybe but in the normal world people have work and other things happening and aren't constantly staring at a screen. 🤣

If they're lazy in the beginning, I don't see much point.

Must agree with @ahagiraffe to an extent...I'm not particularly interested in texting. I don't value it as a means of communication other than to relay information. I cba tapping out chatty texts just to say hello etc.

However, that asides, I'm more persuaded by his reaction to the suggestion of a trip away. If he was in it to win it, he'd have jumped at the chance.
I wouldn't have liked that reaction at all. Cold water moment.

I used to put up with this shit. Feel so stupid about it now. Find someone who treats you better and doesn’t make you second guess everything.

It’s not supposed to be this hard this early on. Cut your losses and find someone who’s excited to chat to you. You deserve more than this guy can give you.

Not sure what you've been reading, but I've never seen that type of advice on here.

I think this is about valuing yourself more highly than you are doing currently. You know what good looks like, you know how you want to be treated and what you deserve. His behaviour doesn’t meet the bar. Don’t lower the bar. Get rid. It’s a bit old now but I found the book “He’s just not into you” very helpful in situations like this. And there will be men out there who are into you and will make the effort. Good Luck!

No, you have misunderstood. You can’t make anyone do anything. Avoidant or uninterested guys will avoid, pursuers will pursue. Just be yourself. Let him be himself. Or if you do get together with the fake/ forced version you will both be miserable.

Sorry to say, he’s just not that into you. It’s been mere weeks and if you are already feeling like that, it’s not great. Next!!