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CF Next door killed our plant

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NewNeighbour007 · 07/06/2024 18:17

Last autumn, our neighbour asked if he could move our climbing plant off the shared boundary wall so they could paint the fence top bit (it's a brick wall with some spiky bits on top if that makes sense).

It's technically our boundary. I’d said I wasn’t bothered about painting the fence bits as the plant covered the spikes anyway but he insisted as they’d built the wall, that he wanted to paint them all (he was doing the other sides around his property.

The was full of huge gorgeous flowers. So I asked him to wait till they had bloomed and to not kill the plant. He agreed.

After it finished flowering, I gently lifted the plant tendrils off, and asked them to pop them back on when they were done.

We had a lot of building work going on ourselves (scaffolding up) at the time, and then winter and a family bereavement, so can't really remember, but I'm sure I put the plant back on the fence.

Last week I noticed there was hardly any of the plant left (and nothing on the fence). I presumed it had died back over winter. it was starting to sprout new leaves. I noticed they never painted the fence either but I lifted the tendrils back onto the fence, carefully threading the few strands that were regrowing round the fence.

I’ve just come home to find they’ve cut them all off!!! They’ve virtually killed it which must’ve meant they came onto our property to do so, without our knowledge or consent.

I’m pretty annoyed (f*cking furious) but don’t know how best to handle this.

I don't think I'm being unreasonable btw to be upset about this but didn't know what other heading to put this under,

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NewNeighbour007 · 07/06/2024 19:42

Comeoncar · 07/06/2024 19:30

I love plants and I am adding lots of climbing plants at the moment but add climbing supports to the fence/next to the fence so it doesn't need to go through. I'd add that now before it grows again to avoid this problem in the future.

Great idea - thank you x

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NewNeighbour007 · 07/06/2024 19:43

TomatoSoz · 07/06/2024 19:37

That's a shame - I've just planted one up an arch and it has loads of flower buds on. Like others have said, it should come back. Can you put some wire trellis behind it so it clings to your side of the metal fence part of the wall? My new neighbour has clematises growing on their side and I love that they're coming over this side as well - free flower display with 0 effort! Some people just don't like plants - could you grow one around your door instead?

I'll get a trellis - great idea - thank you x

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CJ0374 · 07/06/2024 19:48

Just add a trellis on YOUR side for it to climb up! IF the neighbour wants to paint in the future, then no disruption to the plant.
Passionflower are considered an invasive weed in some places, so I doubt its dead. Even IF it is, they are cheap to buy.

Zingy123 · 07/06/2024 20:08

@EnglishBluebell nothing wrong with my comprehension thank you.

Rosejinkyb · 07/06/2024 21:15

People may well be entitled to crop their side but when in such close proximity eg terraces everyone knows it’s a dick move. It takes nothing to pop a note or knock on the door. And going onto your property isn’t counted as cropping their side, it’s criminal damage. It’s so shitty and disheartening when neighbours do stuff like this.

Rosejinkyb · 07/06/2024 21:16

@CJ0374 missed the point entirely.

Otherstories2002 · 07/06/2024 21:23

NewNeighbour007 · 07/06/2024 18:35

Correct.

If you threaded them in such a way that were on his side he had the right to cut them back. They’re on his property.

NewNeighbour007 · 07/06/2024 21:26

Zingy123 · 07/06/2024 19:10

If you threaded the plant through the fence then part of it was on the neighbours side. They are entitled to cut that as they wish to. You don't have any claim to their side of the fence.

Hmmm but he has the right to walk round my side of the wall and cut it down at source?

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NewNeighbour007 · 07/06/2024 21:28

Otherstories2002 · 07/06/2024 21:23

If you threaded them in such a way that were on his side he had the right to cut them back. They’re on his property.

I was putting it back to where it was before. I'd moved it previously for him to paint the fence at his request. It hadn't been an issue before. If it was, tell me. Also he was on my property to trim it back that far, not his.

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Pawtree · 07/06/2024 21:32

Passion flower and cockroaches will be the only things to survive the apocalypse. Don’t worry OP, it’ll grow back.

nozbottheblue · 07/06/2024 21:46

Very odd, but it will grow back and go from strength to strength!
Mine has only just started growing again after the wet winter but it’s shooting up now. Stays ptrettty dormant underground over winter then flourishes all summer. Passion flowers at my mum’s and my sister’s get passion fruits on them too as they’re longer established.
Hope for a lovely warm summer 😊

NewNeighbour007 · 07/06/2024 21:49

Devilsmommy · 07/06/2024 19:38

Doesn't matter if it was there years before, if the neighbour doesn't want it, they've got every right to cut it their side. Try and keep it on your side by putting something there for it to grow over

They came round and cut it on our side which is the bit I'm not pleased about but yes, thank you - I'll get supports for the plan on our side this time (it was there before we were).

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NewNeighbour007 · 07/06/2024 21:49

Pawtree · 07/06/2024 21:32

Passion flower and cockroaches will be the only things to survive the apocalypse. Don’t worry OP, it’ll grow back.

Ha ha! Thank you!

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NewNeighbour007 · 07/06/2024 21:50

nozbottheblue · 07/06/2024 21:46

Very odd, but it will grow back and go from strength to strength!
Mine has only just started growing again after the wet winter but it’s shooting up now. Stays ptrettty dormant underground over winter then flourishes all summer. Passion flowers at my mum’s and my sister’s get passion fruits on them too as they’re longer established.
Hope for a lovely warm summer 😊

Oh wow! Actual passion fruit?!?

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TheTartfulLodger · 07/06/2024 21:53

NewNeighbour007 · 07/06/2024 21:50

Oh wow! Actual passion fruit?!?

It won't be the edible ones. Those are tropical.

NewNeighbour007 · 07/06/2024 21:54

TheTartfulLodger · 07/06/2024 21:53

It won't be the edible ones. Those are tropical.

Dahm! I got all excited for a minute! Thanks x

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Indigococo84 · 07/06/2024 21:55

Whose fence is it? We put up a brand new fence with trellis on top. Not long after the neighbours plant, like a sticky ivy thing starting growing through the trellis. I asked them to pull it off, they didn’t, so I pulled off as much as I could manage from my side, it’s bloody annoying, it sticks everywhere and will destroy the trellis. If it regrows back this year I will not be happy. It’s my fence that I paid a fortune for and I don’t want it ruined.

nozbottheblue · 07/06/2024 22:07

The fruit are perfectly edible, just not as full and juicy as commercially grown varieties. They look splendid too!

Shan5474 · 07/06/2024 22:17

I had a passion fruit on mine once but it was only small so maybe you haven’t noticed yours OP. They are lovely tropical almost alien looking plants 😍. So how much is actually left? Has he just cut the new growth off and it’s only woody bits left, or is it like now one foot from the ground?

KrisAkabusi · 07/06/2024 22:31

NewNeighbour007 · 07/06/2024 21:26

Hmmm but he has the right to walk round my side of the wall and cut it down at source?

But he said he didn't do it, you've provided no evidence that it's been cut rather than just died, and he seems happy to reattach it and let it grow again. Are you sure you're right to blame him?

nozbottheblue · 07/06/2024 22:41

From September 22, a good year.

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