Found out 4 years ago 'DH' uses adultwork etc. That's not a surprise as he also checked out of the relationship a few years before that, about the time we had our second child. The first child was a novelty and exciting but by the time the second came (who didn't sleep for 3 years) life together was drudgery.
I have begged him to sell the house and split the equity so we can separate. He point blank refuses. When I get upset and tell him how unhappy I am and how I can't see a way out he stonewalls me. Even though his best friend separated and as far as I know has amicably shared 50:50 custody. both parties are happy and co-parenting effectively. Why doesn't he want to have a fresh start and be with a woman who he actually likes? I can't comprehend why he wants to live like this indefinitely. Can anyone explain??
For 4 years I've lived like this. My soul is destroyed. There isn't anywhere to rent anywhere near my kids schools. I'm in an area of extremely low rent supply, and I'm not exaggerating. There is a 1 bed flat available. If I move out my kids won't come with me to a 1 bed flat (age 10 and 12) as they love their home and obviously don't know who their dad is.
A 1 bed flat is actually all I can afford. I've been saving and trying to increase my income for 4 years since I found out. The continuous rise in the cost of living has completely overridden all my efforts.
I've reached breaking point this week. I've told him I feel suicidal. That my only option is to move to a 1 bed flat and leave the children. Does he care what that will do to them? Again he just ignores me rather than agree to sell. I feel like I'm going insane. What is this?
What is he playing at? I really do feel like I'm going mad at this point.