Joining a new gym

[Felicity33]

Just joined a new gym - quite swanky linked to a spa. Been to a couple of classes and have found some of the women quite frosty. I would be very so slightly younger than the average - maybe by five years so not much and although I have tried to make polite conversation, I’m not getting much back. The men in the class have all been friendly with hello, how are you etc.
Just wondering what I’m doing wrong! I get I’m the new member and may just need to bed in.

Maybe you should realise the gym isn't quite the right place for a chat. I'm barely on nodding terms with most people at my gym as I'm there to work out not socialise.

I also don’t want to have in-depth conversations. Just friendliness. I get this quite a lot from other women and I’m starting to think there’s something up with me!

i speak to no one at the gym.. i am not there for making friends, i am there to get fit!

i personally think gyms are not a place you go for chit chat.. and friendships build up over time.

so one week, you might nod as you pass in the changing room, another, you ask them if they are finshed using gym equipment.. i think friendships in gyms build up over time.. maybe give it a couple of months and you might be on 'good morning' terms with them.

Yes, it sounds like you're the sort of woman that other women don't like. Never mind, eh! As long as the men are friendly...

ouch

I’ve been in gyms for 30 years and the vast majority of people are there to exercise and not for friendly chit chat. Of course, you see familiar faces over time and may nod and smile, say hi, and then people go about their business. Sometimes you might end up chatting with some people, but this takes time.

Don’t go with the expectation of instantly clicking with other members; go, do your workouts, smile and hi if you wish and let things naturally evolve. It’s also ok if you don’t and up clicking with anyone - that’s normal and it doesn’t mean that people don’t like you.

I do mind and that is why I posted. There is no need to be so rude.

Thanks for this - will keep going and just get on with the exercising!