To bin DP off for gig?

[WavingTree]

I booked tickets for a band. I really really love last November for a gig in the summer. DP said he would like to come, so I bought him a ticket. We do not live together and each have our own DC. The gig is in another city so that DP would need childcare. I have booked a nice Airbnb.

He still has not organised childcare and has vague notions of a possible sleepover with a sort of friend. Otherwise he will not be able to come or will have to get public transport home as he does not drive.

WIBU just to say to him not to come, as now something I am really looking forward to is a bone of contention and is causing me stress as opposed to letting me just look forward to it?

I'd tell him if he's not sorted and confirmed for definite in the next couple of days, you're taking a friend instead.

Don't give him the chance to let you down last minute, just tell him that you need to know by a certain date, and if he's not made it clear by then, then you'll just go with a friend or on your own, or better yet, just tell him you're going on your own as you first intended, sell the ticket and use the money to buy yourself something nice and enjoy a night having fun, life's way to short for time wasters, even if they are our other half's.

Thanks, all. I’ve said to him not to come, and I’ll sell the ticket and just be excited!

If he's not sorted sell the ticket or ask a friend!

I’ve stopped doing this full stop after I took DP to Alanis Morrisette. Regretted it as he didn’t love it like I did, he said it was ‘alright’. £100 tickets as it was a treat to myself. Total buzzkill!

I now go on my own.

DPs son keeps gifting us stuff to things that DP likes, and I invariably hate. I try not to be be a grouch, but honestly it's a total faff taking time of work, travelling and then sitting through something I don't enjoy. Do both of you a favour and go have fun without him.