To ask for help to move me on to a better life

[Harpingly]

Late 20s, single with no DC. Work in minimum wage job - shift work. Confortable there but its hard to have a social life and mostly spend my time off recovering from last shift / watiching Netflix. Live in shared house - don't have much to do with others - with high rent so little money left at the endcof month.

DF has kindly offered to gift me a deposit for a flat but I'd nedd to get a mortgage and wage isn't high enough to get anything remotely decent.

Even this isn't motivating me to search for a better job. I have skills and qualifications but just can't motivate myself to even look for jobs - know its what I need to do and want to do. Not depressed or ill or even unhappy, maybe just lazy and stuck.

AIBU to ask for help to get me out of this life I have now so I can get my own home and a better job?

What did you want to do before? Did you go to college/uni or do any training? What did you used to like?

How about booking a week's leave and making some plans like choosing a great book to read, buying a nice journal to scribble thoughts down, getting lots of sleep, taking yourself outside for some picnics and walks - being nice to yourself and trying to get revitalised so you can start making some plans or coming up with some ideas for the future.

It's hard when you're stuck in a loop.

I think this is obviously just who you are. If the offer of a deposit isn’t enough to motivate you, then I would be concerned that even if you did get a better paying job, you wouldn’t have the incentive long term to keep it up.

It sounds like as PP has said, that you need to find what interests you and sparks some passion, maybe money and material gains just isn’t it.

JenniferEckles did hospitality training at college. Now its not what I enjoy.

Used to like sports at school but lost touch with teams I was involved in - no longer fit.

Have tried taking annual leave to get sorted but mostly did the same as usual without the work. I don't know what's wrong with me.

I do feel stuck in loop.

What would you like your life to look like? Is there any field of work that attracts you? Do you have A-levels?

you could still get a mortgage on minimum wage, have a word with an independent mortgage broker to see how much you can borrow. Getting your own place might give you the incentive to do other things.

Averagelife but I don’t want it to be who I am. I want my own home and a job I enjoy and a social life. Yet there's nothing that Im interested or passionate enough about to get me moving.

GreekVases I've got BTEC. I'd like to do something like an estate agent or selling something. Think I'd be motivated by a job with commission - that would be an incentive and I'm told I'm good at conversing. No idea how I'd get into that though.

Civil service is great for this.
Something like the home office, hmrc or dwp.

Wage is decent. Generally Monday to Friday working, bank holidays off and in some departments there's offers of overtime where you can work from home with a decent rate.

You don't have to love it but the work is ok and you can progress if you want to there's quite a lot of support in it.

Plus the pension is excellent and you can always move round departments when opportunities come up so don't get stuck in one for years.