To think nursery just let him nap for as long as possible ?

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My two year old is still awake, kicking his bed...

He's been with me for the last couple of weeks and not at nursery and I've managed to get him to sleep by 8 pm, no issues. Because I don't let him nappy much longer than 30 minutes during the day. Sometimes an hour. Even if he naps an hour and is up by 2-2:30 pm max, bed time is not an issue.

I've had a word with nursery before to tell them to never let him nap for over an hour.. but he's so riled up and doesn't sleep until 9:30 pm sometimes when he comes back from there. I can really tell the difference when he's had a shorter nap.

Am I unreasonable to bring this up nicely, just make them aware that I can definitely tell if he's had a very long sleep? I think they just let him sleep as long as he likes.

He is up at 6:30 in the morning.

What time does he nap? That can be as important as duration.

Yes, they are obviously letting him sleep as long as he wants

They won't address it because if he's asleep, they don't have to entertain him

YANBU. I’ve seen threads like this where people say it is “cruel” to wake a sleeping child etc but it’s total horseshit. You as the parent know what’s best for your son and it isn’t being wide awake at ten to nine because they let him sleep.

definitely speak to them. My nursery used to have a list of sleep times and wake children up after that time had elapsed.

12:30-1:30.

None of mine napped beyond 2pm. It affected their bedtime if they did. You are right to speak up.

I could have written this and I asked them last week to reduce it to 30 mins which they did. Today us his first day back and he won't sleep. Slept for over an hour today.

Yes I had the exact same problem with my sons nursery. He is such a low sleep need child he dropped ALL naps just after he was one. Nursery still occasionally let him have a nap as he ‘seemed tired’, he was then awake until nearly 10pm. I asked if they thought he needed a nap please could they cap it at 30/40 minutes as he really didn’t need a 2 hour nap. I was informed that they couldn’t wake a sleeping child. So I just told them that he doesn’t nap. I’ve not had problems since as he is actually tired when he comes home. Absolutely talk to them, they may know your child well but you know your child better. Hope it works out for you.

Everyone i knew could have written this post with kids between 2& 3

The nursery love it when they hit the sack at 1 and tank out for 2 hours - by that age lots of toddlers will nap really solidly so its easy for the staff.

But then you can't get them to bed until 10pm at night and they get less sleep overall.

Be really, really firm with them on it.

Worth mentioning but from experience with mine, the saying ‘sleep promotes sleep’ was also absolutely true.
If mine were over tired it would take them ages to crash and the quality of the sleep would be terrible too.
I’d definitely mention it though. Maybe they can take him for an earlier nap so that he gets the amount he needs without it interfering with bed time. Maybe he is more relaxed after a nice, routine day with Mum and nursery is more stimulating so he has a huge come down. At least if you discuss it with them you’ll be in a better position to get your head around why he might not be able to drop off.
Wishing you lots of luck - the situation sounds exhausting for you xx