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AIBU?

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To bring up an issue from one year ago?

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MelMar1 · 04/06/2024 20:01

So, an incident at a staff night out in August 2023. So yes nearly a year. A colleague told someone I called her a b*h on the night out. I didn’t! In work the next week when sober she admitted she’d got it wrong and I didn’t say it. Anyway the relevant part is this. Another colleague mentioned to me, that a similar work event (we have a ping pong table and arcade games /TV showing if a match is on, in the work common room, and the company provided drinks and snacks. We went out after though) , is not going to happen this year. They said they reckon it could be because boss heard what happened last year.

My issue is, the colleague who lied about me told others I called her that name. So what if my boss heard I said it, and I didn’t have the chance to clear my name? But my boss never approached me about it, or mentioned it at all. AIBU to bring it up a year later in this context? Or should I let my boss make up their own mind, given that they know me and my integrity. I’d hate my reputation to be tarnished if management think I did say this. I know it was a work night out with drink involved, but very unfair to be accused of saying something you didn’t. Sorry I hope that reads clearly!

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Itsonlymashadow · 04/06/2024 20:06

I wouldn’t. Just because your boss heard it, it doesn’t mean they believed it. Or they also could have heard that the person admitted they were wrong.

AquaFurball · 04/06/2024 20:11

Wouldn't be listening to hearsay from anyone saying they reckon it's because yadda yadda yadda. Sounds like shit stirring to me. More likely company tightening their belts based on similar cancelling or downscaling of work social events thar many companies are doing this year.

MelMar1 · 04/06/2024 20:18

@Itsonlymashadow Oh thank you that’s a really helpful perspective. It doesn’t actually mean they believed it. They’ve been nothing but nice to me as usual anyway since- I get along with my boss. And I do feel bringing it up is not the right thing to do, when they haven’t. Appreciate the reply!

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MelMar1 · 04/06/2024 20:18

@AquaFurball Very good point! I had put it while out of my mind as ancient history, but when they said this it made me feel worried then.

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