AIBU about husbands immature response

[TipsyB]

I went through the beach toys we have and binned an old heavy blow-up flamingo that hasn’t been used in years. It’s massive and and hasn't been blown-up in a while so I decided to get rid of it just to make room (I threw it in the recyling). DH found it, took it out of the bin and was complaining about throwing it away saying there wasn’t anything wrong with it.

I explained to him why I want to get rid of it and then even suggested giving it to someone else, even though it's old and probably damaged. I actually agreed with his point about not throwing it away! but he got a bit snappy and didn't want to give it away He pumped it up and was acting smug about it still holding air. He also encouraged the kids to use it which they’ve next to no interest in doing. I went to pack it away again and he said don't like he will use it himself, even though he wont and just wants to keep it up as if to prove something

It's such a stupid thing to get mad about, but I can't stand the idea of keeping the thing anymore because the way he's acted pissed me off. It still won't get used by anyone and now DH's joking about me acting sour about the whole thing, but it all feels very disrespectful and childish. I promise I'm not humorless this just got on my nerves and I need to know if I'm going crazy or not.

Me too. I usually gather a pile of stuff (or DH does) and then we jointly decide what to recycle, donate or keep. I would be pissed off if I found things in the bin that I like.

We just had the similar conversation while cleaning out the garage about our yellow swim noodle. My DH hates it, the DC have outgrown it but I like it. I like just floating around with it when I feel lazy. My DH once again expressed how he hates the ‘useless bloody thing’ and I said ‘well it’s mine now and I want to keep it’

There are tons of things he has that I hate, but the deal is either one of us can veto getting rid of something.

Is DH a hoarder? Does the OP have a habit of chucking stuff without checking? Is the flamingo sentimental and maybe reminds him of early holidays with the kids?

I honestly assumed it had been in the shed so long that it was either too dirty / possibly damaged to be kept, which is why I binned it to make space for other bits. The flamingo was used only once I think a few years ago on a trip to the beach, and hasn't seen daylight since then. It's also huge like this one https://www.123pools.co.uk/cdn/shop/products/715EDLEFXIL._AC_SL1000__1.jpg?v=1607068866

I'm not in the habit of throwing things away without checking, but I was making space and the size of this thing, even deflated, was just too big. We've plenty of other toys and things for the beach. DH definitely doesn't give a crap about it, other than that he can use it to wind me up. Will definitely take it to a recycling center if it does end up getting damaged somehow

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This made me lol, thanks

You’ve learnt your lesson, throw away things on bin day after he’s gone out

I don't know why but this has really made me laugh today

Thirding this! Just burst it OP, preferably with scissors😁

It sounds like you have been a bit out of order just binning something because you say it's not needed. He hasn't done anything wrong wanting to keep it, that's up to him surely?

Seriously? 🤦‍♀️

I normally wait until SO is out of the house then it gets ceremoniously dumped. IF he remembers said item I either say I haven’t seen it and sure it’ll turn up or that it was damaged so threw it out.

What's the issue in him keeping it?

non Event, he likes it. You don’t, put it in his car and never think of it again.

But does he want it?

Has he used it in the last few years?

Or is he someone who keeps stuff for the sake of it?

Doesn't matter the why, just that he does. A partnership should be an equal say

You just sound like you don't like each other much

I actually like that idea. Immature is so immature does

The argument sounds like it's blown up out of all proportion

Your at a stalemate nothing wrong with it been sat in shed for years he probably can’t see a reason why it can stay there

we had a water slide one of those long one and you fasten hosepipe to it
been in garage for years

last year the 22 year old got it out

unfortunately it’s been made to be an issue it’s been blown up so definitely ok
so if it’s mysteriously pops now it’s more than obvious you’ve done it for spite to get your own way

HA😂

Theres a song by Manfred Man, pretty flamingo. Blast it out on repeat 😆

THIS. DEFINITELY DO THIS

I wpuld divorce DH if he did this with my things. I also kept old uniforma or bits of them...

Disposing of his property without him knowing is really passive aggressive